Zpo\u010d\u00e1tku v\u0161echno vypad\u00e1 kr\u00e1sn\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Usm\u00edv\u00e1 se, je z v\u00e1s nad\u0161en\u00e1 a p\u00ed\u0161e, \u017ee jste \u201ejin\u00fd ne\u017e v\u0161ichni ostatn\u00ed\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
R\u00e1d se c\u00edt\u00ed\u0161 d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fd, tak\u017ee ji p\u0159irozen\u011b chce\u0161 pot\u011b\u0161it: ve\u010de\u0159\u00ed, kv\u011btinami, t\u0159eba v\u00edkendov\u00fdm v\u00fdletem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To je norm\u00e1ln\u00ed \u2013 ve zdrav\u00e9m vztahu ob\u011b strany investuj\u00ed \u010das, emoce a\u2026 n\u011bkdy i pen\u00edze.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Probl\u00e9m za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1, kdy\u017e si v\u0161imnete jednoduch\u00e9ho vztahu: \u010d\u00edm v\u00edce utr\u00e1c\u00edte, t\u00edm v\u00edce jste milov\u00e1ni. A jakmile \u0159eknete \u201ene\u201c, najednou se objev\u00ed chlad, z\u00e1\u0161\u0165 a trucov\u00e1n\u00ed. Pak si mus\u00edte polo\u017eit nep\u0159\u00edjemnou ot\u00e1zku: miluje v\u00e1s, nebo co j\u00ed m\u016f\u017eete poskytnout?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zdrav\u00fd vztah toleruje slovo \u201ene\u201c. N\u011bkdy \u0159eknete \u201ene\u201c vy, n\u011bkdy ona. N\u011bkdy prost\u011b nejsou pen\u00edze, n\u011bkdy jsou jin\u00e9 priority. Partner, kter\u00fd v\u00e1s skute\u010dn\u011b respektuje, z toho ned\u011bl\u00e1 velkou v\u011bc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Podvodn\u00edk reaguje jinak. V okam\u017eiku, kdy odm\u00edtnete dal\u0161\u00ed kabelku, v\u00fdlet nebo \u201emalou p\u016fj\u010dku\u201c, v\u00e1m najednou \u0159eknou, \u017ee jste \u201ena mizin\u011b\u201c, \u201elakom\u00fd\u201c, \u201enedosahujete jej\u00edch standard\u016f\u201c. Z chlapa, kter\u00e9ho v\u010dera nazvala \u201enejlep\u0161\u00edm\u201c, se v okam\u017eiku stanete n\u011bk\u00fdm, kdo \u201ese neum\u00ed postarat o \u017eenu\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zn\u00e1m jednoho kluka, \u0159\u00edkejme mu Micha\u0142. Na za\u010d\u00e1tku na\u0161eho vztahu si sv\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edtelkyni dop\u0159\u00e1val ka\u017ed\u00fd rozmar. Nov\u00fd telefon, v\u00fdlet, neust\u00e1l\u00e9 d\u00e1rky \u201ebezd\u016fvodn\u011b\u201c. Dokud jednou ne\u0159ekl \u201ene\u201c, proto\u017ee si prost\u011b cht\u011bl u\u0161et\u0159it pen\u00edze pro svou vlastn\u00ed v\u011bc. \u0158ekli mu, \u017ee je uboh\u00fd, \u017ee \u201easi 30 zlot\u00fdch ud\u011bl\u00e1 velk\u00fd rozd\u00edl\u201c. Ne\u0161lo o \u010d\u00e1stku \u2013 \u0161lo o to, \u017ee u\u017e nebyl jej\u00ed bankomat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pokud jedno odm\u00edtnut\u00ed n\u00e1hle sn\u00ed\u017e\u00ed va\u0161i hodnotu v jej\u00edch o\u010d\u00edch, nen\u00ed to partnerka. Tohle je obchodn\u00ed projekt v lidsk\u00e9 k\u016f\u017ei.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dal\u0161\u00edm varovn\u00fdm sign\u00e1lem jsou nekone\u010dn\u00e9 \u201enouzov\u00e9 situace\u201c. Jednou z nich je pozdn\u00ed platba n\u00e1jemn\u00e9ho, \u200b\u200bdal\u0161\u00ed \u00fa\u010dty, dal\u0161\u00ed rozbit\u00fd notebook, dal\u0161\u00ed \u201ed\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 investice do firmy\u201c. Vypr\u00e1v\u011bn\u00ed je v\u017edy podobn\u00e9: \u201eJen mi pomozte dostat se zp\u00e1tky do spr\u00e1vn\u00fdch kolej\u00ed a pak v\u0161echno do sebe zapadne.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Je zaj\u00edmav\u00e9, \u017ee s touto v\u011b\u010dnou finan\u010dn\u00ed kriz\u00ed m\u00e1te po\u0159\u00e1d upraven\u00e9 nehty, \u0159asy \u010derstv\u011b prodlou\u017een\u00e9, telefon nov\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e ten v\u00e1\u0161 a na Instagramu neust\u00e1le zve\u0159ej\u0148ujete nov\u00e9 styly. Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b, ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00e1 pr\u00e1vo se o sebe starat, ale kdy\u017e n\u011bkdo, kdo \u00fadajn\u011b nem\u00e1 z \u010deho \u017e\u00edt, p\u0159itom vypad\u00e1 jako chod\u00edc\u00ed reklama na luxusn\u00ed salon, n\u011bco nesed\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u016fj kamar\u00e1d Bartek mi jednou \u0159ekl, \u017ee jeho b\u00fdval\u00e1 partnerka m\u011bla ka\u017ed\u00fd t\u00fdden \u201edrama\u201c. Jej\u00ed matka byla nemocn\u00e1, jej\u00ed pes pot\u0159eboval akutn\u00ed operaci, soudn\u00edho vykonavatele, n\u011bjakou pokutu k zaplacen\u00ed. Poka\u017ed\u00e9 m\u011bla v oku slzu, sladk\u00fd hlas a slib, \u017ee \u201eto vr\u00e1t\u00ed, jakmile se zase postav\u00edm na nohy\u201c. Nikdy se tak nestalo. M\u00edsto toho za\u010dala nosit oble\u010den\u00ed, kter\u00e9 by si on s\u00e1m nikdy nedovolil nosit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pokud si v\u0161imnete, \u017ee jste pro ni neust\u00e1lou oporou, a p\u0159esto nezm\u011bn\u00ed sv\u016fj p\u0159\u00edstup k pen\u011bz\u016fm, nen\u00ed to partnerstv\u00ed. Je to tich\u00e9 sponzorov\u00e1n\u00ed \u017eivotn\u00edho stylu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eP\u0159\u00edtel m\u00e9 kamar\u00e1dky ji vzal do Dubaje.\u201c
\u201eKoupil j\u00ed auto a ty si ani na v\u00edkend u mo\u0159e nevysta\u010d\u00ed\u0161.\u201c
\u201eJin\u00ed se m\u016f\u017eou sna\u017eit z\u00edskat \u017eenskou.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zpo\u010d\u00e1tku v\u00e1s takov\u00e9 zpr\u00e1vy m\u016f\u017eou zra\u0148ovat a… motivovat. Chcete dok\u00e1zat, \u017ee jste \u201eopravdov\u00fd chlap\u201c, tak\u017ee zatnete zuby, d\u0159ete jako o tr\u016fn, d\u011bl\u00e1te p\u0159es\u010dasy a vzd\u00e1te se sv\u00fdch vlastn\u00edch pl\u00e1n\u016f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jen\u017ee to nen\u00ed inspirace, to nen\u00ed podpora. Je to \u010dist\u00e1 manipulace zalo\u017een\u00e1 na srovn\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed. M\u00edsto aby ocenila to, co d\u011bl\u00e1te, neust\u00e1le zvy\u0161uje la\u0165ku a pou\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 ostatn\u00ed mu\u017ee jako klacek, kter\u00fdm v\u00e1s m\u016f\u017ee \u0161\u0165ouchat. A\u0165 u\u017e si koup\u00edte nebo zorganizujete cokoli, v\u017edycky se najde n\u011bkdo, kdo \u201ed\u011bl\u00e1 v\u00edc\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ve zdrav\u00e9m vztahu si partner\/partnerka cen\u00ed va\u0161\u00ed snahy v kontextu va\u0161\u00ed situace, schopnost\u00ed a charakteru, nikoli ve vztahu k Instagramu n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho. Kdy\u017e m\u00edsto hovor\u016f o pl\u00e1nech, snech a spole\u010dn\u00e9m r\u016fstu sly\u0161\u00edte jen to, kolik utr\u00e1c\u00edte, v\u011bzte, \u017ee nebojujete o l\u00e1sku, ale o to, abyste se stali jej\u00ed soukromou pr\u00e9miovou kartou.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Na za\u010d\u00e1tku vztahu jsou ot\u00e1zky ohledn\u011b pr\u00e1ce nebo \u017eivotn\u00edch pl\u00e1n\u016f p\u0159irozen\u00e9. Chceme v\u011bd\u011bt, s k\u00fdm jsme, kam sm\u011b\u0159uj\u00ed a co je pro n\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
U podvodn\u00edka maj\u00ed ale tyto ot\u00e1zky \u00fapln\u011b jinou p\u0159\u00edchu\u0165. M\u00edsto: \u201eCo r\u00e1d d\u011bl\u00e1\u0161?\u201c, \u201eO \u010dem sn\u00ed\u0161?\u201c, \u201eJak\u00e9 hodnoty jsou pro tebe d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9?\u201c, klade \u0159adu screeningov\u00fdch ot\u00e1zek: \u201eKolik p\u0159esn\u011b vyd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1\u0161?\u201c, \u201eJe to smlouva na dobu neur\u010ditou?\u201c, \u201eM\u00e1\u0161 vlastn\u00ed byt?\u201c, \u201eJe auto tv\u00e9 vlastn\u00ed, nebo leasingov\u00e9?\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tady nen\u00ed \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e1 zv\u011bdavost. Je tu kalkul. Ka\u017ed\u00e1 odpov\u011b\u010f je pro ni vnit\u0159n\u00ed tabulka: stoj\u00ed to za to \u2013 nestoj\u00ed. Pokud se \u010d\u00edsla se\u010dtou, stane se milou, oddanou a dostupnou. Pokud ne, najednou \u201em\u00e1 hodn\u011b pr\u00e1ce\u201c, \u201epot\u0159ebuje prostor\u201c nebo \u201ete\u010f nen\u00ed vhodn\u00e1 doba na vztah\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Skute\u010dn\u00fd partner se m\u016f\u017ee zeptat na finance, aby l\u00e9pe pochopil, jak si napl\u00e1novat spole\u010dn\u00fd \u017eivot. Podvodn\u00edk se pt\u00e1, zda se vyplat\u00ed investovat do va\u0161\u00ed spole\u010dnosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nakonec je vhodn\u00e9 jasn\u011b \u0159\u00edci toto: na tom, \u017ee chcete d\u00e1vat, nen\u00ed nic \u0161patn\u00e9ho. Mu\u017ei se r\u00e1di c\u00edt\u00ed \u0161t\u011bd\u0159\u00ed, starostliv\u00ed a pot\u0159ebn\u00ed. Probl\u00e9m za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1, kdy\u017e je va\u0161e \u0161t\u011bdrost to jedin\u00e9, co ji dr\u017e\u00ed pobl\u00ed\u017e.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u017dena, kter\u00e1 v\u00e1s skute\u010dn\u011b miluje, si mo\u017en\u00e1 d\u00e1rk\u016f v\u00e1\u017e\u00ed, ale ty nebudou podm\u00ednkou jej\u00ed p\u0159\u00edtomnosti. M\u00edsto aby v\u00e1m platila, bude s v\u00e1mi budovat \u2013 i kdy\u017e to zpo\u010d\u00e1tku znamen\u00e1 levn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed k\u00e1vu na benz\u00ednce m\u00edsto v\u00edkendu s all inclusive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pokud m\u00e1te pocit, \u017ee jste sp\u00ed\u0161e bankomat ne\u017e partner, ud\u011blejte si up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e9 zpytov\u00e1n\u00ed sv\u011bdom\u00ed. Polo\u017ete si jednu jednoduchou ot\u00e1zku: Kdyby mi z\u00edtra zmizely pen\u00edze, cht\u011bla by se mnou je\u0161t\u011b z\u016fstat?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pokud v\u00e1s odpov\u011b\u010f bol\u00ed, je to znamen\u00ed, \u017ee nejste ve vztahu, ale v jednostrann\u00e9 sponzorsk\u00e9 dohod\u011b, kterou n\u011bkdo chyt\u0159e nazval \u201el\u00e1skou\u201c. A \u010d\u00edm d\u0159\u00edve si to uv\u011bdom\u00edte, t\u00edm m\u00e9n\u011b zaplat\u00edte \u2013 nejen ze sv\u00e9ho bankovn\u00edho \u00fa\u010dtu, ale i ze sv\u00e9ho srdce.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"KDY\u017d JSTE ZAMILOV\u00c1NI, KON\u010c\u00cdTE SVOU KARTOU Zpo\u010d\u00e1tku v\u0161echno vypad\u00e1 kr\u00e1sn\u011b. Usm\u00edv\u00e1 se, je z v\u00e1s nad\u0161en\u00e1 a p\u00ed\u0161e, \u017ee jste \u201ejin\u00fd ne\u017e v\u0161ichni \n [...]<\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":879,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-878","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/878","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=878"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/878\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":880,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/878\/revisions\/880"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/879"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=878"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=878"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=878"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}