Ve vztahu existuje mnoho sporn\u00fdch oblast\u00ed, tak\u017ee komunikace je nezbytn\u00e1 pro jeho dlouhodob\u00e9 udr\u017een\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psycholo\u017eka Camille Rochet navrhuje, jak obnovit dialog v krizi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
V\u0161echny p\u00e1ry za\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed h\u00e1dky, nap\u011bt\u00ed a konflikty. Aby vztah vzkv\u00e9tal, je nutn\u00e9 tyto konflikty spole\u010dn\u011b p\u0159ekonat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u011bkter\u00e9 p\u00e1ry se v\u0161ak ocitnou v krizi a neschopn\u00e9 v\u00e9st dialog. Ur\u010dit\u00e9 sporn\u00e9 body br\u00e1n\u00ed obnov\u011b komunikace, kter\u00e1 by jinak umo\u017enila p\u00e1ru znovu se srovnat. Pro\u010d je ale tak t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 v\u00e9st dialog po h\u00e1dce?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro\u010d je tak t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 nav\u00e1zat dialog po krizi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro Camille Rochetovou, psycholo\u017eku a p\u00e1rovou terapeutku a autorku knihy \u201e5 p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den\u00ed, kter\u00e1 br\u00e1n\u00ed \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9mu man\u017eelstv\u00ed\u201c, je emo\u010dn\u00ed blok\u00e1da jednou z hlavn\u00edch p\u0159ek\u00e1\u017eek. N\u011bkdy si po krizi pot\u0159ebujete d\u00e1t \u010das na obnoven\u00ed dialogu. Nadm\u011brn\u00e9 emoce br\u00e1n\u00ed konstruktivn\u00ed komunikaci; m\u016f\u017eeme \u0159\u00edkat v\u011bci, kter\u00fdch pozd\u011bji litujeme a kter\u00e9 nebyly nutn\u00e9. Abyste mohli efektivn\u011b komunikovat, mus\u00edte b\u00fdt schopni zvl\u00e1dat sv\u00e9 emoce, ale tak\u00e9 naslouchat druh\u00e9 osob\u011b. Psychologov\u00e9 ve sv\u00e9 praxi \u010dasto pozoruj\u00ed, \u017ee se jeden partner ani nesna\u017e\u00ed naslouchat tomu druh\u00e9mu, proto\u017ee si jeho pocity \u0161patn\u011b vylo\u017e\u00ed. \u201eVzhledem k tomu, co spolu p\u00e1r v minulosti pro\u017eil, si ten druh\u00fd interpretuje reakci druh\u00e9ho a p\u0159est\u00e1v\u00e1 naslouchat. Neuv\u011bdomujeme si, \u017ee n\u00e1\u0161 partner m\u016f\u017ee r\u016fst, a p\u0159edem ho odsuzujeme, a to je jedna z hlavn\u00edch p\u0159ek\u00e1\u017eek jak\u00e9hokoli dialogu,\u201c vysv\u011btluje Camille Rochetov\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jak\u00fdm chyb\u00e1m se vyvarovat, abyste mohli nav\u00e1zat dialog?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne\u017e se pust\u00edte do dialogu, mus\u00edte se tak\u00e9 ujistit, \u017ee je druh\u00e1 osoba v dobr\u00e9 n\u00e1lad\u011b k rozhovoru. Nem\u00e1 smysl tla\u010dit na n\u011bj, pokud je v\u00e1\u0161 partner st\u00e1le rozru\u0161en\u00fd. \u201eNe v\u0161ichni se uklid\u0148ujeme stejnou rychlost\u00ed. \u010cas od \u010dasu mus\u00edme b\u00fdt trp\u011bliv\u00ed, po\u010dkat, a\u017e se druh\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk uklidn\u00ed, a d\u00e1t mu v\u011bd\u011bt, kdy se c\u00edt\u00ed p\u0159ipraven\u00fd,\u201c doporu\u010duje psycholog. Pokud emoce st\u00e1le p\u0159etrv\u00e1vaj\u00ed, m\u016f\u017eete nap\u0159\u00edklad konverzaci pozastavit a stanovit si \u010das na obnoven\u00ed, t\u0159eba ve\u010der, a\u017e d\u011bti usnou. Toto zpo\u017ed\u011bn\u00ed uklidn\u00ed osobu, kter\u00e1 si pot\u0159ebuje promluvit, a uklidn\u00ed i osobu, kter\u00e1 je st\u00e1le rozru\u0161en\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u010casto nen\u00ed probl\u00e9mem p\u0159\u00ed\u010dina krize, ale to, co se kolem n\u00ed krystalizuje. Za h\u00e1dkou kv\u016fli nevypr\u00e1zdn\u011bn\u00e9 my\u010dce nebo \u0161pinav\u00fdm pono\u017ek\u00e1m na podlaze se skr\u00fdvaj\u00ed mnohem hlub\u0161\u00ed konflikty. N\u00e1\u0161 odborn\u00edk rad\u00ed, abyste si ud\u011blali \u010das na to, abyste se t\u011bmito probl\u00e9my pono\u0159ili, d\u016fkladn\u011b je prozkoumali a dostali se ke skute\u010dn\u00e9mu ko\u0159eni probl\u00e9mu. Neo\u010dek\u00e1vejte, \u017ee sv\u016fj spor vy\u0159e\u0161\u00edte za p\u011bt minut; je nezbytn\u00e9 si dop\u0159\u00e1t ve\u0161ker\u00fd \u010das pot\u0159ebn\u00fd k rozlu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed slo\u017eitost\u00ed konfliktu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Abyste udr\u017eeli otev\u0159enou komunikaci, nemus\u00edte zvy\u0161ovat hlas; naopak by to bylo kontraproduktivn\u00ed. \u201eV\u00fdzkum ukazuje, \u017ee kdy\u017e jedn\u00e1te s n\u011bk\u00fdm, kdo zvy\u0161uje hlas, mozek p\u0159ejde do obrann\u00e9ho re\u017eimu a p\u0159estane naslouchat. Proto by snaha z\u00edskat v\u00fdhodu t\u00edm, \u017ee budete mluvit hlasit\u011bji ne\u017e druh\u00e1 osoba, byla zcela zbyte\u010dn\u00e1,\u201c zd\u016fraz\u0148uje terapeut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jak pozn\u00e1te, \u017ee dialog byl konstruktivn\u00ed?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Po krizi tak zoufale chceme, aby n\u00e1\u0161 partner sly\u0161el na\u0161e pocity, \u017ee zapom\u00edn\u00e1me naslouchat druh\u00e9 osob\u011b. Nechat druhou osobu mluvit bez p\u0159eru\u0161ov\u00e1n\u00ed je cvi\u010den\u00ed, kter\u00e9 mus\u00edme bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u011b absolvovat, pokud chceme vy\u0159e\u0161it sporn\u00e9 body. \u201eV terapii, kdy\u017e jeden partner mluv\u00ed, druh\u00fd nem\u00e1 absolutn\u011b \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e9 pr\u00e1vo zasahovat. Nech\u00e1me ho mluvit a pak ten druh\u00fd parafr\u00e1zuje. M\u016f\u017eu str\u00e1vit cel\u00e9 sezen\u00ed t\u00edm, \u017ee nech\u00e1m mluvit jen jednoho partnera, aby se c\u00edtil skute\u010dn\u011b pochopen\u00fd a sly\u0161en\u00fd. Od t\u00e9 chv\u00edle m\u00e1me ty spr\u00e1vn\u00e9 n\u00e1stroje k obnoven\u00ed dialogu,\u201c uji\u0161\u0165uje Camille Rochet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed terapeuti rad\u00ed p\u00e1r\u016fm, aby za\u010dali konverzaci dr\u017een\u00edm se za ruce, aby se konflikty vy\u0159e\u0161ily. Dr\u017een\u00ed partnera za ruku v\u00e1m ulev\u00ed od nap\u011bt\u00ed; druh\u00e1 osoba u\u017e nen\u00ed protivn\u00edkem, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e n\u011bk\u00fdm, s k\u00fdm m\u016f\u017eete spolupracovat na posunu vp\u0159ed. Pro Camille Rochetovou je jedna v\u011bc jist\u00e1: pokud se ob\u011bma partner\u016fm poda\u0159\u00ed dr\u017eet se za ruce nebo se obejmout pot\u00e9, co vyj\u00e1d\u0159ili sv\u00e9 st\u00ed\u017enosti, je to znamen\u00ed, \u017ee konverzace byla plodn\u00e1 a probl\u00e9my byly vy\u0159e\u0161eny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jak\u00e9 jsou zn\u00e1mky toho, \u017ee vztah je ve slep\u00e9 uli\u010dce?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kdo u\u017e rad\u011bji nevzal v\u011bci do vlastn\u00edch rukou, ne\u017e aby vyvol\u00e1val konflikt? Bu\u010fte ale opatrn\u00ed; systematick\u00e9 podd\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed se rozhodnut\u00edm druh\u00e9ho a nechat v\u011bci vlekouc\u00ed se jen proto, aby se nap\u011bt\u00ed uklidnilo, nev\u011bst\u00ed nic dobr\u00e9ho. Situace v\u017edycky kon\u010d\u00ed v\u00fdbuchem. \u201ePokud m\u00e1te v ka\u017ed\u00e9m konfliktu n\u011bkolik let pocit, \u017ee jste pora\u017een\u00fd, kdy existuj\u00ed t\u00e9mata, kter\u00e1 v\u016fbec nem\u016f\u017eete nadn\u00e9st, proto\u017ee v\u017edycky \u0161patn\u011b za\u010d\u00ednaj\u00ed, t\u00e9mata, kter\u00e1 zamet\u00e1te pod koberec, proto\u017ee se neust\u00e1le c\u00edt\u00edte nepochopeni, stoj\u00ed za to vyhledat pomoc,\u201c rad\u00ed psycholog. Kdy\u017e se st\u00e1le opakuj\u00ed stejn\u00e9 h\u00e1dky a komunikace se naru\u0161uje, m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt na\u010dase zv\u00e1\u017eit p\u00e1rovou terapii, kter\u00e1 v\u00e1m pom\u016f\u017ee tuto patovou situaci prolomit.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Ve vztahu existuje mnoho sporn\u00fdch oblast\u00ed, tak\u017ee komunikace je nezbytn\u00e1 pro jeho dlouhodob\u00e9 udr\u017een\u00ed. Psycholo\u017eka Camille Rochet navrhuje, jak obnovit dialog v krizi. \n [...]<\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":8181,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8180","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8180","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8180"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8180\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8182,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8180\/revisions\/8182"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/8181"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8180"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8180"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8180"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}