Moudrost n\u011bkdy p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed s v\u011bkem, ale l\u00e1ska k po\u0159\u00e1dku a uklizenosti ne nutn\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Co kdyby to m\u011blo n\u011bco spole\u010dn\u00e9ho s va\u0161\u00edm d\u011btstv\u00edm, va\u0161imi nejhlub\u0161\u00edmi touhami nebo vztahem? Pom\u016f\u017eeme v\u00e1m to vy\u0159e\u0161it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oble\u010den\u00ed povaluj\u00edc\u00ed se v\u0161ude kolem, hromady pap\u00edr\u016f, kl\u00ed\u010de a telefony, kter\u00e9 se zdaj\u00ed b\u00fdt p\u0159ipraveny usadit se na t\u011bch nejneo\u010dek\u00e1van\u011bj\u0161\u00edch m\u00edstech\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I v \u0161edes\u00e1ti letech se n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed lid\u00e9 st\u00e1le pot\u00fdkaj\u00ed s nepo\u0159\u00e1dkem, kter\u00fd jim zp\u016fsobuje nejr\u016fzn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed probl\u00e9my: pozdn\u00ed platby, nap\u011bt\u00ed ve vztaz\u00edch s rodinou a p\u0159\u00e1teli a nechu\u0165 zv\u00e1t hosty, proto\u017ee v\u011bd\u00ed, \u017ee budou muset uklidit \u2013 alespo\u0148 v ob\u00fdvac\u00edm pokoji!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro\u010d je tak t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 se s p\u0159ib\u00fdvaj\u00edc\u00edm v\u011bkem zm\u011bnit? Co o n\u00e1s vypov\u00edd\u00e1 n\u00e1\u0161 neust\u00e1l\u00fd nepo\u0159\u00e1dek? Poj\u010fme se na to pod\u00edvat bl\u00ed\u017ee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eMoje matka byla opravdu punti\u010dk\u00e1\u0159ka<\/a> . V m\u00e9m pokoji nesm\u011blo b\u00fdt nic voln\u011b, jinak bych byla potrest\u00e1na,\u201c vzpom\u00edn\u00e1 dvaa\u0161edes\u00e1tilet\u00e1 Ludivine. \u201eJakmile jsem si po\u0159\u00eddila vlastn\u00ed byt, nechala jsem v\u011bci hromadit, jakousi pomstu za ty roky omezen\u00ed. I dnes je to siln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e j\u00e1: kdy\u017e je v\u0161echno p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 uklizen\u00e9, m\u00e1m pocit, \u017ee se dus\u00edm.\u201c V\u0161ichni m\u00e1me v minulosti uklizenost nebo nepo\u0159\u00e1dek. Nen\u00ed snadn\u00e9 zm\u011bnit sv\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed, kdy\u017e pramen\u00ed z tak dlouh\u00e9 historie. N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed lid\u00e9 jdou proti proudu sv\u00e9 v\u00fdchovy, zat\u00edmco jin\u00ed se stanou nepo\u0159\u00e1dn\u00fdmi dosp\u011bl\u00fdmi, proto\u017ee se jako d\u011bti nikdy nenau\u010dili z\u00e1klady \u00faklidu<\/a> . \u201ePokud byl v\u00e1\u0161 otec sb\u011bratel a va\u0161e matka m\u011bla probl\u00e9m s vyhazov\u00e1n\u00edm v\u011bc\u00ed, je velmi pravd\u011bpodobn\u00e9, \u017ee tento vzorec budete opakovat,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Laurence Einfalt, psycholog a organiza\u010dn\u00ed konzultant*, kter\u00fd p\u0159ed patn\u00e1cti lety zalo\u017eil Jaru, agenturu, kter\u00e1 pom\u00e1h\u00e1 lidem, kte\u0159\u00ed pravideln\u011b vytv\u00e1\u0159ej\u00ed nepo\u0159\u00e1dek a jsou odhodl\u00e1ni uspo\u0159\u00e1dat si sv\u00e9 sk\u0159\u00edn\u011b… a sv\u016fj \u017eivot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nepo\u0159\u00e1dek je formou vzpoury, odm\u00edt\u00e1n\u00edm dodr\u017eovat pravidla. \u201eM\u00e1m punti\u010dk\u00e1\u0159skou pr\u00e1ci, kde mus\u00edm b\u00fdt organizovan\u00e1 a opatrn\u00e1,\u201c vysv\u011btluje \u0161estapades\u00e1tilet\u00e1 Julie, autorizovan\u00e1 \u00fa\u010detn\u00ed. \u201eTak\u017ee doma se mus\u00edm zbavit tlaku, dop\u0159\u00e1t si ur\u010ditou m\u00edru svobody a dovolit si d\u011blat v\u00edc.\u201c Kdy\u017e profesn\u00ed \u017eivot ponech\u00e1v\u00e1 jen m\u00e1lo prostoru pro kreativitu, nepo\u0159\u00e1dek se n\u011bkdy m\u016f\u017ee st\u00e1t nezbytn\u00fdm ventilem, z\u00e1van \u010derstv\u00e9ho vzduchu, prostorem svobody, kde poprv\u00e9 nemus\u00edte v\u0161echno kontrolovat. T\u00edm, \u017ee n\u011bkter\u00e9 \u017eeny p\u0159ijmou sv\u016fj chaos, tak\u00e9 prosazuj\u00ed svou nez\u00e1vislost<\/a> na stereotypech: odm\u00edtaj\u00ed zt\u011bles\u0148ovat ide\u00e1ln\u00ed hospody\u0148ku, str\u00e1\u017ekyni domova, garantku po\u0159\u00e1dku. \u201eLid\u00e9 s nepo\u0159\u00e1dkem se odm\u00edtaj\u00ed p\u0159izp\u016fsobovat; \u010dasto jsou psychologicky docela svobodn\u00ed,\u201c poznamen\u00e1v\u00e1 Emmanuelle Vaux-Lacroix, psycholo\u017eka a psychoterapeutka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Stejn\u011b jako v pokoji teenagera, i vy m\u016f\u017eete nach\u00e1zet ur\u010dit\u00e9 pot\u011b\u0161en\u00ed v rozhazov\u00e1n\u00ed sv\u00fdch v\u011bc\u00ed v\u0161ude kolem. Je to regresivn\u00ed, transgresivn\u00ed a pon\u011bkud egocentrick\u00e9<\/a> pot\u011b\u0161en\u00ed: jako d\u00edt\u011b, kter\u00e9 se sna\u017e\u00ed dosp\u011bt, tajn\u011b \u010dek\u00e1te, a\u017e po v\u00e1s n\u011bkdo uklid\u00ed. \u201eVe vztahu to m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt zp\u016fsob, jak si vyzna\u010dit sv\u00e9 teritorium, pasivn\u00ed agrese,\u201c poznamen\u00e1v\u00e1 Emmanuelle Vaux-Lacroix. \u201eOkupov\u00e1n\u00ed prostoru, jeho naru\u0161ov\u00e1n\u00ed, je zp\u016fsob, jak z\u00edskat pozornost, jak donutit druh\u00e9ho, aby se o v\u00e1s staral.\u201c Kdy\u017e d\u011bti odejdou z domova, p\u00e1r \u010del\u00ed nov\u00e9 rovnov\u00e1ze, kterou mus\u00ed naj\u00edt, shled\u00e1n\u00ed, kter\u00e9 nen\u00ed v\u017edy snadn\u00e9, kde jeden z n\u00e1s mo\u017en\u00e1 pot\u0159ebuje c\u00edtit se t\u00edm druh\u00fdm akceptov\u00e1n. \u201ePokud se st\u00e1le v\u00edce h\u00e1d\u00e1me o v\u011bcech, jako jsou pono\u017eky povaluj\u00edc\u00ed se n\u011bkde kolem nebo hromad\u00edc\u00ed se n\u00e1dob\u00ed<\/a> v d\u0159ezu, \u010dasto to znamen\u00e1, \u017ee probl\u00e9m je jinde: je lep\u0161\u00ed se poradit s odborn\u00edkem, abyste pochopili, co se d\u011bje,\u201c pokra\u010dovala psycholo\u017eka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pro psychoanalytiky je domov odrazem n\u00e1s samotn\u00fdch. Chaos, kter\u00fd tam vl\u00e1dne, n\u011bkdy odr\u00e1\u017e\u00ed chaos, kter\u00fd existuje i v na\u0161ich mysl\u00edch. \u201eZahlcen\u00ed lid\u00e9 maj\u00ed \u010dasto mno\u017estv\u00ed z\u00e1jm\u016f a mno\u017estv\u00ed souvisej\u00edc\u00edch materi\u00e1l\u016f: knihy, \u0161ic\u00ed stroj, \u0159emesln\u00e9 pot\u0159eby \u2013 v\u0161echny tyto nov\u00e9 z\u00e1jmy, kter\u00e9 zab\u00edraj\u00ed m\u00edsto ve sk\u0159\u00edn\u00edch nebo na n\u00e1bytku,\u201c poznamen\u00e1v\u00e1 Laurence Einfalt. Okoln\u00ed chaos n\u011bkdy nazna\u010duje f\u00e1zi objevov\u00e1n\u00ed, p\u0159echodn\u00fd okam\u017eik, ve kter\u00e9m se hled\u00e1 nov\u00fd sm\u011br v \u017eivot\u011b. N\u011bkdy je to tak\u00e9 druh hry, fantazie, ne\u010dekan\u00e1 intelektu\u00e1ln\u00ed stimulace. \u201eN\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed lid\u00e9 to pou\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed k udr\u017een\u00ed bd\u011bl\u00e9 mysli<\/a> ,\u201c pokra\u010duje. \u201eTr\u00e1v\u00ed hodiny hled\u00e1n\u00edm kl\u00ed\u010d\u016f a analyzov\u00e1n\u00edm t\u011bch nejmen\u0161\u00edch \u00fakol\u016f, kter\u00e9 provedli po p\u0159\u00edchodu dom\u016f. Jeden z m\u00fdch pacient\u016f mi jednou \u0159ekl: \u201aJeliko\u017e jste mi pomohli uklidit d\u016fm, zaj\u00edmalo by m\u011b, jak se s t\u00edm vypo\u0159\u00e1d\u00e1m!\u2018\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201eKa\u017ed\u00fd den si \u0159\u00edk\u00e1m, \u017ee z\u00edtra uklid\u00edm, a te\u010f tomu opravdu v\u011b\u0159\u00edm,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 63let\u00e1 Laura. \u201eAle mus\u00edm p\u0159iznat, \u017ee druh\u00fd den to zase odkl\u00e1d\u00e1m.\u201c \u00daklid zahrnuje spoustu mal\u00fdch rozhodnut\u00ed, kter\u00e1 se n\u011bkdy zdaj\u00ed tak skli\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed, \u017ee je odkl\u00e1d\u00e1me nav\u017edy. Toto prokrastinov\u00e1n\u00ed<\/a> m\u016f\u017ee maskovat nedostatek energie, obdob\u00ed deprese ,<\/a> jak\u00fdsi pocit \u201epro\u010d?\u201c. \u201ePokud se d\u011bti odst\u011bhovaly, pokud k n\u00e1m chod\u00ed m\u00e9n\u011b lid\u00ed, m\u016f\u017eeme nechat nepo\u0159\u00e1dek zahltit, proto\u017ee se c\u00edt\u00edme osam\u011bl\u00ed, proto\u017ee u\u017e nevid\u00edme smysl v tom, abychom se sna\u017eili jen pro sebe…\u201c vysv\u011btluje Emmanuelle Vaux-Lacroix. Je na v\u00e1s, abyste sv\u016fj nepo\u0159\u00e1dek \u201ediagnostikovali\u201c! Mo\u017en\u00e1 jste si zvykli na sv\u016fj \u201eorganizovan\u00fd chaos\u201c a v\u017edy se v\u00e1m s n\u00edm da\u0159\u00ed naj\u00edt cestu. Pokud se ale v\u00e1\u0161 nepo\u0159\u00e1dek stane faktorem deprese<\/a> nebo izolace, mo\u017en\u00e1 je \u010das zkusit znovu p\u0159evz\u00edt kontrolu nad sv\u00fdm \u017eivotem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Babi\u010d\u010dina komoda, drobnosti p\u0159ivezen\u00e9 z cest: je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 uspo\u0159\u00e1dat<\/a> v\u011bci, kter\u00e9 vypr\u00e1v\u011bj\u00ed p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh na\u0161ich \u017eivot\u016f. Po \u0161edes\u00e1tce se n\u011bkdy mus\u00edme starat krom\u011b vlastn\u00edch v\u011bc\u00ed i o v\u011bci na\u0161ich d\u011bt\u00ed a rodi\u010d\u016f. \u201eKdy\u017e d\u011bti odch\u00e1zej\u00ed z domova, \u010dasto s n\u00edm zach\u00e1zej\u00ed jako se skladem a zanech\u00e1vaj\u00ed po sob\u011b spoustu v\u011bc\u00ed, kter\u00fdch se jejich rodi\u010de nemaj\u00ed ani pr\u00e1vo, ani chu\u0165 zbavit,\u201c poznamen\u00e1v\u00e1 Laurence Einfalt. \u201eNav\u00edc po smrti rodi\u010d\u016f nebo po p\u0159est\u011bhov\u00e1n\u00ed do domova d\u016fchodc\u016f zd\u011bd\u00ed tak\u00e9 velk\u00e9 mno\u017estv\u00ed p\u0159edm\u011bt\u016f nebo n\u00e1bytku …<\/a> \u201c Pokud se pot\u00fdk\u00e1te s nepo\u0159\u00e1dkem, m\u016f\u017ee to b\u00fdt proto, \u017ee je pro v\u00e1s t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 se rozlou\u010dit se v\u0161emi t\u011bmito uklid\u0148uj\u00edc\u00edmi p\u0159edm\u011bty, kter\u00e9 se n\u011bkdy st\u00e1vaj\u00ed jako amulety, hradby proti plynut\u00ed \u010dasu. \u201eI kdy\u017e to m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9, vykl\u00edzen\u00ed domu rodi\u010d\u016f m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt prosp\u011b\u0161n\u00e9: n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed lid\u00e9 za\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed zjeven\u00ed a uv\u011bdomuj\u00ed si absurditu hromad\u011bn\u00ed tolika zbyte\u010dn\u00fdch v\u011bc\u00ed,\u201c vysv\u011btluje psycholo\u017eka. Uvoln\u011bn\u00ed prostoru tak\u00e9 znamen\u00e1 d\u00e1t minulost na jej\u00ed pr\u00e1voplatn\u00e9 m\u00edsto a vytvo\u0159it prostor pro dobr\u00e9 roky, kter\u00e9 p\u0159ijdou.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Moudrost n\u011bkdy p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed s v\u011bkem, ale l\u00e1ska k po\u0159\u00e1dku a uklizenosti ne nutn\u011b. Co kdyby to m\u011blo n\u011bco spole\u010dn\u00e9ho s va\u0161\u00edm d\u011btstv\u00edm, va\u0161imi \n [...]<\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":737,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-736","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/736","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=736"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/736\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":738,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/736\/revisions\/738"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/737"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=736"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=736"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=736"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Voln\u00fd a vzh\u016fru nohama<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Suk, velk\u00fd v\u00fdk\u0159ik l\u00e1sky<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Chaos, zdroj inspirace (nebo) nov\u00fd impuls<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Poruchy du\u0161e<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Odstra\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed n\u011b\u010d\u00edch vzpom\u00ednek<\/h2>\n\n\n\n