Kdy\u017e jste zamilovan\u00ed, nedok\u00e1\u017eete si p\u0159edstavit, \u017ee by tak siln\u00fd cit mohl n\u011bkdy zmizet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
L\u00e1ska v\u0161ak m\u016f\u017ee bez varov\u00e1n\u00ed v\u00e9st ke zlomen\u00e9mu srdci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Na jak\u00e9 sign\u00e1ly bychom m\u011bli v\u011bnovat pozornost a jak se m\u016f\u017eeme vyhnout pocitu viny tv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed v tv\u00e1\u0159 t\u00e9to realit\u011b?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eKonec l\u00e1sky<\/em> .\u201c Toto je definice odmilovanosti<\/a> podle slovn\u00edku Larousse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ale m\u016f\u017ee tento siln\u00fd a hlubok\u00fd cit, kter\u00fd spojuje dva lidi, skute\u010dn\u011b zmizet p\u0159es noc?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sl\u00e1bnouc\u00ed l\u00e1sce obvykle p\u0159edch\u00e1zej\u00ed p\u0159\u00edznaky, n\u011bkdy tak nen\u00e1padn\u00e9, \u017ee si jich lze nev\u0161imnout. A kdy\u017e \u010del\u00edte odmilovanosti, m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt uv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed si t\u00e9to situace obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9, n\u011bkdy pln\u00e9 viny. Psycholog nab\u00edz\u00ed rady, jak tuto zkou\u0161ku p\u0159ekonat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Odmilovanost je sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed dlouh\u00e9ho procesu: \u201e L\u00e1ska nezmiz\u00ed lusknut\u00edm prst\u016f; sp\u00ed\u0161e m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt krut\u00e9 uv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed si, \u017ee u\u017e n\u011bkoho nemiluje\u0161. Je to d\u016fsledek pomal\u00e9 eroze, jako n\u011bco, co se \u010dasem rozpad\u00e1 a st\u00e1v\u00e1 se nezastaviteln\u00fdm,\u201c<\/em> vysv\u011btluje psycholo\u017eka Am\u00e9lie Boukhobza. \u201e Zpo\u010d\u00e1tku si toho nev\u0161imne\u0161; douf\u00e1\u0161, \u017ee to vybledne, mysl\u00ed\u0161 si, \u017ee st\u00e1le m\u016f\u017ee\u0161 znovu rozn\u00edtit plamen, lp\u00ed\u0161 na minulosti. A pak se najednou dostav\u00ed jak\u00e9si uv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed; <\/em>dovol\u00ed\u0161 si p\u0159iznat, \u017ee u\u017e toho druh\u00e9ho nemiluje\u0161,<\/strong><\/em> \u201c<\/em> pokra\u010duje. Pr\u00e1v\u011b toto n\u00e1hl\u00e9 uv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed ukon\u010d\u00ed l\u00e1sku.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ztr\u00e1ta l\u00e1sky ve vztahu se projevuje \u0159adou znak\u016f, kter\u00e9 je n\u011bkdy obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 interpretovat, ale nakonec po\u0161kozuj\u00ed pouto. V\u0161\u00edm\u00e1me si, \u017ee l\u00e1ska u\u017e nen\u00ed to, co n\u00e1s poh\u00e1n\u00ed, \u017ee se hromad\u00ed zklam\u00e1n\u00ed, \u017ee o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed se ji\u017e nenapl\u0148uj\u00ed, v p\u0159\u00edtomnosti druh\u00e9ho se c\u00edt\u00edme osam\u011bl\u00ed, c\u00edt\u00edme v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed pot\u0159ebu izolace, d\u011bl\u00e1me spolu m\u00e9n\u011b v\u011bc\u00ed a dokonce se p\u0159istihneme, \u017ee se d\u00edv\u00e1me na n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho nebo o n\u011bm fantaz\u00edrujeme\u2026 V\u0161echny tyto znaky jsou symptomy<\/a> sl\u00e1bnouc\u00edch romantick\u00fdch cit\u016f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Americk\u00fd psycholog Mark Travers v \u010dasopise Psychology Today<\/em> tak\u00e9 uvedl t\u0159i znaky, kter\u00e9 nazna\u010duj\u00ed, \u017ee se partner za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 distancovat<\/a> : lhostejnost, nedostatek oddanosti a systematick\u00fd odpor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pro Am\u00e9lie Boukhobzyovou by konec rom\u00e1nku nem\u011bl b\u00fdt interpretov\u00e1n jako ne\u00fasp\u011bch. Jde jednodu\u0161e o uzn\u00e1n\u00ed, \u017ee se vztah vyvinul, \u017ee se n\u011bco zm\u011bnilo. \u201e M\u00edsto toho, abyste ztr\u00e1celi \u010das hled\u00e1n\u00edm, co se dalo ud\u011blat pro z\u00e1chranu vztahu, nebo co jste zme\u0161kali, je mo\u017en\u00e1 konstruktivn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed uznat, \u017ee jste pro\u017eili kr\u00e1sn\u00fd milostn\u00fd p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh, dokud vztah trval<\/em> .\u201c Prvn\u00edm krokem je p\u0159ijmout, \u017ee l\u00e1ska m\u016f\u017ee skon\u010dit, ani\u017e byste obvi\u0148ovali sebe nebo druhou osobu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ukon\u010den\u00ed romantick\u00e9ho vztahu a zp\u016fsoben\u00ed bolesti milovan\u00e9 osob\u011b<\/a> m\u016f\u017ee vyvolat obrovsk\u00e9 pocity viny. Pocit viny n\u00e1m n\u011bkdy br\u00e1n\u00ed v tom, abychom k milovan\u00e9 osob\u011b byli zcela up\u0159\u00edmn\u00ed ze strachu, \u017ee j\u00ed ubl\u00ed\u017e\u00edme. Je v\u0161ak d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 jednat s druhou osobou s respektem, nezleh\u010dovat jej\u00ed utrpen\u00ed, mluvit otev\u0159en\u011b a sd\u00edlet sv\u00e9 obavy. \u201e Nen\u00ed to ni\u010d\u00ed chyba, ani va\u0161e, ani jejich, pokud l\u00e1ska vyprch\u00e1.<\/strong><\/em> Pokud ten druh\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk pot\u0159ebuje pomoc, aby se z t\u00e9to situace dostal, je to jeho odpov\u011bdnost. Ale na\u0161\u00ed rol\u00ed nen\u00ed toho druh\u00e9ho zachr\u00e1nit; pokud se chce zachr\u00e1nit s\u00e1m, je to jeho odpov\u011bdnost. Mus\u00edme p\u0159ijmout, \u017ee nejsme v\u0161emocn\u00ed<\/em> .\u201c<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Kdy\u017e jste zamilovan\u00ed, nedok\u00e1\u017eete si p\u0159edstavit, \u017ee by tak siln\u00fd cit mohl n\u011bkdy zmizet. 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Jak\u00e9 jsou zn\u00e1mky sl\u00e1bnouc\u00ed l\u00e1sky?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Jak se vypo\u0159\u00e1dat s odmilovanost\u00ed?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Pro\u010d je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 nec\u00edtit se provinile?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n