N\u011bkdy je milostn\u00fd p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh z r\u016fzn\u00fdch d\u016fvod\u016f t\u011b\u017eko pochopiteln\u00fd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
V takov\u00fdch chv\u00edl\u00edch, m\u011bli bychom na tuto nemo\u017enou l\u00e1sku zapomenout, nebo v ni nad\u00e1le v\u011b\u0159it? Rada odborn\u00edk\u016f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Je to pocit, kter\u00fd p\u0159esahuje \u010das a inspiruje b\u00e1sn\u00edky a spisovatele: l\u00e1ska.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u011bkdy v\u0161ak tento cit m\u016f\u017ee nab\u00fdvat slo\u017eit\u00fdch podob, vzdorovat o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00edm a zaveden\u00fdm konvenc\u00edm a dokonce s\u00e1hnout po zak\u00e1zan\u00e9 l\u00e1sce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Romance Romea a Julie, toho dokonal\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edkladem, mi okam\u017eit\u011b p\u0159ipom\u00edn\u00e1 tento p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tato dynamika nemo\u017en\u00e9 l\u00e1sky inspirovala jak mistrovsk\u00e1 d\u00edla, tak i b\u00e9\u010dkov\u00e9 filmy. Kdy\u017e tedy r\u016fzn\u00e9 faktory naru\u0161\u00ed jejich rom\u00e1nek, co milenci maj\u00ed na v\u00fdb\u011br? Je lep\u0161\u00ed se vzd\u00e1t a j\u00edt d\u00e1l, nebo vytrvat? Aurore Malet-Karas, neurov\u011bdkyn\u011b, sexuolo\u017eka a p\u00e1rov\u00e1 terapeutka, se s n\u00e1mi d\u011bl\u00ed o sv\u00e9 post\u0159ehy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Romantick\u00e9 vztahy<\/a> nejsou v\u017edy jednoduch\u00e9. Filmov\u00e1 adaptace Romea a Julie je toho d\u016fkazem. Ve sv\u011bt\u011b t\u00e9to trag\u00e9die, kterou napsal William Shakespeare a poprv\u00e9 vydala v roce 1597, se rodina Monteku\u016f, ke kter\u00e9 Romeo pat\u0159\u00ed, a rodina Julie, Kapuleti, dlouhodob\u011b sv\u00e1raj\u00ed. Jejich setk\u00e1n\u00ed je l\u00e1skou na prvn\u00ed pohled<\/a> . Romeo a Julie v\u0161ak nemohou sv\u016fj milostn\u00fd p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh pro\u017e\u00edt, proto\u017ee jejich rodiny se jejich svazku stav\u00ed proti. Navzdory rivalit\u011b mezi jejich klany se milenci rozhodnou vyznat sv\u00e9 city<\/a> a milovat se v tajnosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Romeo je v\u0161ak vyhn\u00e1n kv\u016fli konfrontaci s Juliin\u00fdm bratrancem Tybaltem, kter\u00fd zabil sv\u00e9ho p\u0159\u00edtele Mercutia. Mezit\u00edm je Julie nucena vyp\u00edt lektvar, kter\u00fd ji vykresluje jako mrtvou, proto\u017ee jej\u00ed otec ji pl\u00e1nuje provdat za n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho. Romeo, p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den\u00fd o smrti sv\u00e9ho milovan\u00e9ho, \u200b\u200bse otr\u00e1v\u00ed. Kdy\u017e se Julie probud\u00ed, zjist\u00ed, \u017ee jej\u00ed sp\u0159\u00edzn\u011bn\u00e1 du\u0161e<\/a> je mrtv\u00e1, a rozhodne se vz\u00edt si \u017eivot, aby se k n\u011bmu p\u0159ipojila. Milostn\u00fd p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh Romea a Julie, kter\u00fd se odv\u00edjel za obt\u00ed\u017en\u00fdch okolnost\u00ed a kon\u010d\u00ed tragicky, je dokonal\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edkladem nemo\u017en\u00e9 l\u00e1sky<\/a> .<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nemo\u017en\u00e1 l\u00e1ska<\/a> je \u201el\u00e1ska, kterou nelze zhmotnit a pro\u017e\u00edt<\/em> ,\u201c tvrd\u00ed Aurore Malet-Karas, neurov\u011bdkyn\u011b, sexuolo\u017eka a p\u00e1rov\u00e1 terapeutka. Nejb\u011b\u017en\u011bj\u0161\u00ed formou je jednostrann\u00fd vztah, co\u017e znamen\u00e1, \u017ee l\u00e1ska nen\u00ed op\u011btovan\u00e1 ani sd\u00edlen\u00e1. V tomto p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b se jedna osoba zamiluje<\/a> do druh\u00e9, ale druh\u00e1 osoba ji neop\u011btuje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 lidi je vztah zbyte\u010dn\u00fd, proto\u017ee jsou ve vztahu na d\u00e1lku<\/a> . P\u0159esto\u017ee se miluj\u00ed, jsou nuceni se rozej\u00edt,<\/a> proto\u017ee vzd\u00e1lenost, r\u016fzn\u00e9 p\u0159ek\u00e1\u017eky br\u00e1n\u00edc\u00ed spole\u010dn\u00e9mu byt\u00ed nebo pot\u00ed\u017ee s udr\u017een\u00edm jiskry<\/a> se st\u00e1vaj\u00ed nep\u0159ekonateln\u00fdmi a vedou k p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 velk\u00e9 frustraci v dlouhodob\u00e9m vztahu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jin\u00fd sc\u00e9n\u00e1\u0159: \u201eMilenci poch\u00e1zej\u00ed ze dvou r\u016fzn\u00fdch soci\u00e1ln\u00edch prost\u0159ed\u00ed<\/em> ,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 p\u00e1rov\u00fd terapeut. N\u011bkdy se lid\u00e9 zamiluj\u00ed do n\u011bkoho, s k\u00fdm se romantick\u00fd vztah zd\u00e1 nemo\u017en\u00fd, nap\u0159\u00edklad proto, \u017ee je to jejich \u0161\u00e9f, kolega z pr\u00e1ce, partner jejich sestry nebo n\u011bkdo, s k\u00fdm jsou \u017eenat\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201eAbychom to zjistili, stoj\u00ed za to si s osobou, ke kter\u00e9 c\u00edt\u00edme n\u011bco, promluvit, abychom j\u00ed odpov\u011bd\u011bli na ur\u010dit\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky. Nap\u0159\u00edklad pro\u010d je na\u0161e l\u00e1ska nemo\u017en\u00e1? Je opravdu nemo\u017en\u00e1? Rozhodnut\u00ed bude u\u010din\u011bno na z\u00e1klad\u011b odpov\u011bd\u00ed na tyto ot\u00e1zky,\u201c<\/em> rad\u00ed p\u00e1rov\u00fd terapeut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 lidi nen\u00ed t\u0159eba zva\u017eovat jen l\u00e1sku, kterou k druh\u00e9 osob\u011b c\u00edt\u00ed, ale i dal\u0161\u00ed faktory. \u201eNap\u0159\u00edklad je t\u0159eba ov\u011b\u0159it, zda ve vztahu jsou d\u011bti,\u201c<\/em> vysv\u011btluje. V takov\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b m\u016f\u017eete zv\u00e1\u017eit mo\u017enost p\u0159ita\u017elivosti k \u017eenat\u00e9mu mu\u017ei nebo \u017een\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201ePokud l\u00e1ska nen\u00ed op\u011btov\u00e1na, mus\u00edte to vzd\u00e1t a p\u0159ijmout my\u0161lenku na to, \u017ee se posunete d\u00e1l. Na druhou stranu, pokud se dva lid\u00e9 miluj\u00ed, v\u011bc se posuzuje individu\u00e1ln\u011b. Mohou zkusit sou\u017eit\u00ed, aby si uv\u011bdomili a potvrdili, \u017ee jejich vztah je skute\u010dn\u011b nemo\u017en\u00fd,\u201c<\/em> rad\u00ed sexuolo\u017eka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Aurore Malet-Karas tak\u00e9 doporu\u010duje, aby p\u00e1ry vyhledaly pomoc p\u00e1rov\u00e9ho terapeuta. \u201eJe cenn\u00fdm spojencem, proto\u017ee m\u016f\u017ee nab\u00eddnout jin\u00fd pohled ne\u017e rodina a p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9. M\u016f\u017ee poradit dv\u011bma zamilovan\u00fdm lidem a pomoci jim naj\u00edt \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Podle p\u00e1rov\u00e9 terapeutky je vzd\u00e1n\u00ed se nemo\u017en\u00e9 l\u00e1sky<\/a> podobn\u00e9 rozchodu<\/a> . \u201eTato situace m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt zni\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed a zanechat v n\u00e1s pocit bezmoci. Vyrovn\u00e1v\u00e1me se s n\u00ed stejn\u011b \u0161patn\u011b jako s rozchodem. Nedok\u00e1\u017eeme p\u0159ijmout, \u017ee vztah skon\u010dil je\u0161t\u011b p\u0159edt\u00edm, ne\u017e v\u016fbec za\u010dal. Uv\u011bdomujeme si, \u017ee u\u017e nen\u00ed cesty zp\u011bt. Toto utrpen\u00ed by se nem\u011blo ignorovat a nem\u011bli bychom v\u00e1hat po\u017e\u00e1dat o pomoc,\u201c<\/em> vysv\u011btluje Aurore Malet-Karas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Abyste se efektivn\u011b posunuli vp\u0159ed<\/a> a pe\u010dovali o sv\u00e9 du\u0161evn\u00ed zdrav\u00ed, doporu\u010duje nenechat prostor pro pop\u00edr\u00e1n\u00ed. Nejlep\u0161\u00ed je dovolit si pro\u017e\u00edvat emoce, jako je smutek<\/a> nebo hn\u011bv<\/a> , abyste p\u0159estali c\u00edtit nad\u011bji a uv\u011bdomili si, \u017ee se mus\u00edte posunout d\u00e1l. Sexuolo\u017eka tak\u00e9 doporu\u010duje vyh\u00fdbat se ve\u0161ker\u00e9mu kontaktu s milovanou osobou, proto\u017ee v takov\u00e9 situaci je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 truchlit. To m\u016f\u017ee znamenat nepos\u00edlat zpr\u00e1vy, ale tak\u00e9 p\u0159estat kontrolovat profily na soci\u00e1ln\u00edch s\u00edt\u00edch.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jakmile dokon\u010d\u00edte tyto dva kroky, je \u010das znovu z\u00edskat kontrolu nad sv\u00fdm \u017eivotem a v\u011bnovat se nap\u0159\u00edklad nov\u00fdm projekt\u016fm. M\u016f\u017eete tak\u00e9 za\u010d\u00edt nov\u00fd milostn\u00fd p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh. Nezapome\u0148te v\u0161ak, \u017ee to je mo\u017en\u00e9 a\u017e po dokon\u010den\u00ed prvn\u00edho kroku: p\u0159ijet\u00ed sv\u00fdch pocit\u016f.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"N\u011bkdy je milostn\u00fd p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh z r\u016fzn\u00fdch d\u016fvod\u016f t\u011b\u017eko pochopiteln\u00fd. V takov\u00fdch chv\u00edl\u00edch, m\u011bli bychom na tuto nemo\u017enou l\u00e1sku zapomenout, nebo v ni nad\u00e1le \n [...]<\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":575,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-574","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/574","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=574"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/574\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":576,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/574\/revisions\/576"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/575"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=574"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=574"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=574"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Co<\/strong> je nemo\u017en\u00e1 l\u00e1ska?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Kdy\u017e vzd\u00e1lenost nebo pr\u00e1ce br\u00e1n\u00ed p\u00e1ru v nav\u00e1z\u00e1n\u00ed kontaktu<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Jak by m\u011bl \u010dlov\u011bk reagovat<\/strong> na nemo\u017enou l\u00e1sku?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Je mo\u017en\u00e9 zapomenout<\/strong> na nemo\u017enou l\u00e1sku, jak m\u016f\u017eete p\u0159estat milovat a p\u0159estat c\u00edtit p\u0159ita\u017elivost?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n