Zat\u00edmco \u017eeny st\u00e1le tvrd\u00ed, \u017ee je p\u0159itahuj\u00ed zralej\u0161\u00ed mu\u017ei a \u017eenichov\u00e9, slibn\u00e9 \u017eensk\u00e9 role se vyv\u00edjej\u00ed. Studie p\u00e1r\u016f s v\u00fdznamn\u00fdmi v\u011bkov\u00fdmi rozd\u00edly. P\u0159ej\u00edt na obsah<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kdy\u017e britsk\u00e1 seznamka po\u017e\u00e1dala 1 000 nezadan\u00fdch, aby ohodnotili maxim\u00e1ln\u00ed a minim\u00e1ln\u00ed v\u011bk sv\u00e9ho ide\u00e1ln\u00edho partnera, v\u00fdsledky potvrdily stereotypy, informuje Stylist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mu\u017ei se s v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed pravd\u011bpodobnost\u00ed spoj\u00ed s n\u011bk\u00fdm mlad\u0161\u00edm (a\u017e o 10 let mlad\u0161\u00edm a a\u017e o 4 roky a 10 m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f star\u0161\u00edm), zat\u00edmco \u017eeny prohla\u0161uj\u00ed ochotu sd\u00edlet sv\u016fj \u017eivot s n\u011bk\u00fdm o 6 let a 8 m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f star\u0161\u00edm a o 4 roky a 9 m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f mlad\u0161\u00edm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tento vzorec se zd\u00e1 b\u00fdt tradi\u010dn\u00ed. Za stereotypy se v\u0161ak skr\u00fdv\u00e1 st\u00e1le v\u00edce p\u00e1r\u016f, kter\u00e9 vstupuj\u00ed do vztah\u016f s v\u00fdrazn\u00fdmi v\u011bkov\u00fdmi rozd\u00edly. A u\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed si plavbu s n\u011bk\u00fdm, kdo je od nich jin\u00fd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
C\u00edt\u00edm se v\u00fdjime\u010dn\u011b<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eBylo mi 27 let, kdy\u017e jsem za\u010dala v\u00e1\u0161niv\u00fd vztah s 41let\u00fdm mu\u017eem,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 Florence (1), kterou kontaktovali e-mailem. \u201eN\u011bkdy na n\u011bj st\u00e1le mysl\u00edm s ironick\u00fdm \u00fasm\u011bvem,\u201c dod\u00e1v\u00e1 o sv\u00e9m b\u00fdval\u00e9m kolegovi, mu\u017ei, se kter\u00fdm pro\u017eila kr\u00e1sn\u00fd a dojemn\u00fd vztah, kter\u00fd trval 10 m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f. \u201eByl zku\u0161en\u00fd a v\u011bd\u011bl, jak se k \u017een\u011b chovat.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eNa v\u0161ech \u00farovn\u00edch,\u201c vysv\u011btluje mlad\u00e1 \u017eena. \u201eC\u00edtila jsem se v\u00fdjime\u010dn\u011b, proto\u017ee si m\u011b vybral tento mu\u017e, kter\u00e9ho jsem pova\u017eovala za pohledn\u00e9ho a impozantn\u00edho.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n
V\u011bkov\u00fd rozd\u00edl, kter\u00fd z tohoto p\u0159\u00edb\u011bhu ud\u011blal tak poutav\u00fd p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh, ho ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 odsoudil k ne\u00fasp\u011bchu. \u201eCht\u011bla jsem v\u0161echno opustit a odst\u011bhovat se do zahrani\u010d\u00ed. On taky. Ale m\u011bl d\u016fm a d\u00edt\u011b.\u201c Dnes je Florence 31 let a \u017eije s mu\u017eem sv\u00e9ho v\u011bku. \u201eJsem \u0161\u0165astn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. Nakonec je to jednodu\u0161\u0161\u00ed. M\u00e1me stejn\u00e9 pot\u0159eby, stejn\u00e9 touhy,\u201c analyzuje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nen\u00ed neobvykl\u00e9 b\u00fdt ve vztahu s n\u011bk\u00fdm mnohem star\u0161\u00edm nebo mnohem mlad\u0161\u00edm. Tuto zamilovanost vysv\u011btluje n\u00e1hoda, ale tak\u00e9 projekce. \u017deny mohou v ur\u010dit\u00fdch obdob\u00edch sv\u00e9ho \u017eivota c\u00edtit p\u0159itahov\u00e1ny k otcovsk\u00e9 postav\u011b a mu\u017ei k v\u011b\u010dn\u00e9mu ml\u00e1d\u00ed. V\u011bkov\u00fd rozd\u00edl se v\u0161ak st\u00e1v\u00e1 skute\u010dn\u011b v\u00fdznamn\u00fdm, kdy\u017e jej p\u00e1r pova\u017euje za svou silnou str\u00e1nku nebo kdy\u017e se opakuje mezi setk\u00e1n\u00edmi a vztahy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u011bta\u010dty\u0159icetiletou C\u00e9line v\u017edycky p\u0159itahovali star\u0161\u00ed mu\u017ei. \u201eMu\u017ei v m\u00e9m v\u011bku mi d\u00e1vali pocit, \u017ee jsem jako p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9. Nebo jako d\u011bti. A tou\u017eila jsem po shov\u00edvav\u00e9m pohledu dosp\u011bl\u00e9ho. N\u011bkoho, kdo by m\u011b miloval jako otec, laskav\u011b a bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u011b.\u201c Tato p\u0159ita\u017elivost \u010dasto funguje obousm\u011brn\u011b. Mu\u017e si v\u00e1\u017e\u00ed sv\u00e9ho postaven\u00ed moudr\u00e9ho mu\u017ee a vitality sv\u00e9 mlad\u0161\u00ed partnerky. I kdy\u017e toto uspo\u0159\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed chv\u00edli funguje, s t\u00edm, jak \u017eena dosp\u00edv\u00e1 a jej\u00ed pot\u0159eby se m\u011bn\u00ed, je podkop\u00e1v\u00e1no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mu\u017ei, kte\u0159\u00ed poskytuj\u00ed povzbuzen\u00ed<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro Patricii Delahaie, kou\u010dku a autorku knihy \u201eJak se m\u00edt v\u017edy r\u00e1d?\u201c (vydan\u00e9 nakladatelstv\u00edm Leduc.s), na\u0161e zku\u0161enosti m\u011bn\u00ed n\u00e1\u0161 pohled na l\u00e1sku: \u201eRomantick\u00e1 cesta m\u011bn\u00ed na\u0161e krit\u00e9ria,\u201c vysv\u011btluje telefonicky. \u201e\u017deny cht\u011bj\u00ed mu\u017ee, kte\u0159\u00ed je povzbuzuj\u00ed, ne jen chr\u00e1n\u00ed,\u201c dod\u00e1v\u00e1. Rozd\u00edl je nepatrn\u00fd. Star\u0161\u00ed mu\u017e se m\u016f\u017ee zd\u00e1t ochranitelsk\u00fd, zvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b pokud je profesion\u00e1ln\u011b etablovan\u00fd, a st\u00e1v\u00e1 se jak\u00fdmsi Pygmali\u00f3nem. Kou\u010dka se v\u0161ak domn\u00edv\u00e1, \u017ee tento n\u011bkdy rigidn\u00ed vztah u\u017e dne\u0161n\u00edm \u017een\u00e1m nevyhovuje. M\u00edsto toho tou\u017e\u00ed b\u00fdt psychicky obklopeny \u0161t\u011bdr\u00fdm partnerem, kter\u00fd neusiluje o kontrolu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0160estadvacetilet\u00e1 Marianne u\u017e dlouho v\u00ed, \u017ee nechce \u017e\u00edt s mu\u017eem sv\u00e9ho v\u011bku. Je to pro ni p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 nudn\u00e9, p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 bl\u00edzk\u00e9, s kamar\u00e1dem. Pot\u00e9, co chodila s p\u011btat\u0159icetilet\u00fdm mu\u017eem, se mlad\u00e1 \u017eena zamilovala do dvacetilet\u00e9ho. \u201eB\u00fdt s n\u011bk\u00fdm mlad\u0161\u00edm bylo z\u00e1bavn\u00e9, p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 a osv\u011b\u017euj\u00edc\u00ed,\u201c zvol\u00e1v\u00e1 do telefonu. \u201eAle a\u0165 u\u017e je to mlad\u0161\u00ed nebo star\u0161\u00ed, vztah mi p\u0159ijde mnohem zaj\u00edmav\u011bj\u0161\u00ed a obohacuj\u00edc\u00ed. Je tak\u00e9 v\u00fdhodou, \u017ee nem\u00e1m stejn\u00e9 \u00fazkosti. Je to mnohem jednodu\u0161\u0161\u00ed a pot\u0159ebuji podporu,\u201c p\u0159izn\u00e1v\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed jin\u00e9ho sv\u011bta<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sedmadvacetilet\u00fd Aur\u00e9lien si u\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 pohyb mezi sv\u00fdmi dv\u011bma sv\u011bty: sv\u00fdm vlastn\u00edm a sv\u011btem sv\u00e9 dvacetilet\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edtelkyn\u011b. \u201eTento v\u011bkov\u00fd rozd\u00edl vyva\u017euje n\u00e1\u0161 vztah. Hodn\u011b se od sebe navz\u00e1jem u\u010d\u00edme. Je to skute\u010dn\u00fd z\u00e1van \u010derstv\u00e9ho vzduchu,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 nad\u0161en\u011b. Kdy\u017e v\u011bkov\u00e9 rozd\u00edly podporuj\u00ed sd\u00edlen\u00ed a zv\u011bdavost, vztahy se posiluj\u00ed, potvrzuje Patricia Delahaie, kter\u00e1 pro sv\u016fj v\u00fdzkum provedla rozhovory s \u0159adou \u017een.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Co se v\u0161ak na prvn\u00ed pohled jev\u00ed jako vzru\u0161uj\u00edc\u00ed a plodn\u00fd rozd\u00edl, se m\u016f\u017ee zvrhnout ve skute\u010dnou roztr\u017eku. \u201eExistuje probl\u00e9m s rytmem, zejm\u00e9na u d\u011bt\u00ed. Je to tak\u00e9 kulturn\u00ed probl\u00e9m, souvisej\u00edc\u00ed s nedostatkem sd\u00edlen\u00fdch referen\u010dn\u00edch bod\u016f,\u201c vysv\u011btluje kou\u010dka, ne\u017e p\u0159ejde k diskusi o perspektiv\u00e1ch ostatn\u00edch. V d\u016fsledku toho m\u016f\u017ee trp\u011bt rodina, p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9 a bl\u00edzc\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 v takov\u00e9m vztahu vyn\u00e1\u0161et bolestn\u00e9 soudy. \u00c9milie (3), 21 let, je ve vztahu s 35let\u00fdm mu\u017eem. Spole\u010dnou budoucnost si ale nedok\u00e1\u017ee p\u0159edstavit. \u201eSamoz\u0159ejm\u011b nechci p\u00e1r let myslet na d\u011bti ani na man\u017eelstv\u00ed. Pokud se n\u00e1\u0161 vztah stane v\u00e1\u017en\u00fdm, v\u00edm, \u017ee bude zklaman\u00fd,\u201c ob\u00e1v\u00e1 se.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro Patricii Delahaie se ran\u00e9 rom\u00e1nky mezi mlad\u00fdmi \u017eenami a zralej\u0161\u00edmi mu\u017ei \u010dasto rozpadaj\u00ed kv\u016fli touze po d\u011btech. Pokud v\u0161ak l\u00e1ska vydr\u017e\u00ed, v\u011bkov\u00fd rozd\u00edl p\u0159est\u00e1v\u00e1 b\u00fdt pro vztah kl\u00ed\u010dov\u00fd a ten se m\u016f\u017ee vyv\u00edjet jin\u00fdm sm\u011brem.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Zat\u00edmco \u017eeny st\u00e1le tvrd\u00ed, \u017ee je p\u0159itahuj\u00ed zralej\u0161\u00ed mu\u017ei a \u017eenichov\u00e9, slibn\u00e9 \u017eensk\u00e9 role se vyv\u00edjej\u00ed. Studie p\u00e1r\u016f s v\u00fdznamn\u00fdmi v\u011bkov\u00fdmi rozd\u00edly. P\u0159ej\u00edt \n [...]<\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":41,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-40","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=40"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":42,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40\/revisions\/42"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/41"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=40"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=40"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=40"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}