Smrt milovan\u00e9 osoby je v\u017edy zni\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed r\u00e1nou. Ka\u017ed\u00fd z n\u00e1s pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 z\u00e1rmutek jinak, ale b\u011b\u017enou zku\u0161enost\u00ed je, \u017ee po sob\u011b zanech\u00e1v\u00e1me p\u0159edm\u011bty \u2013 oble\u010den\u00ed, knihy, \u0161perky a drobn\u00e9 pam\u00e1tky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Na prvn\u00ed pohled se zdaj\u00ed ne\u0161kodn\u00e9, ba dokonce cenn\u00e9, proto\u017ee nesou vzpom\u00ednky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psychologov\u00e9 v\u0161ak zd\u016fraz\u0148uj\u00ed, \u017ee jejich uchov\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee n\u011bkdy zt\u011b\u017eovat vyrovn\u00e1n\u00ed se se ztr\u00e1tou.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u00edsto toho, abychom se posouvali vp\u0159ed, z\u016fst\u00e1v\u00e1me uv\u011bzn\u011bni v minulosti a lp\u00edme na v\u011bcech, kter\u00e9 n\u00e1m p\u0159ipom\u00ednaj\u00ed na\u0161i nep\u0159\u00edtomnost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pamatuji si, jak jsem se po smrti d\u011bde\u010dka cel\u00e9 m\u011bs\u00edce nemohla rozlou\u010dit s jeho kloboukem. Le\u017eel na poli\u010dce a poka\u017ed\u00e9, kdy\u017e jsem se na n\u011bj pod\u00edvala, se mi vybavily vzpom\u00ednky. A\u017e kdy\u017e jsem se rozhodla ho darovat, skute\u010dn\u011b jsem poc\u00edtila, \u017ee za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 proces uzdravov\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ka\u017ed\u00fd zd\u011bd\u011bn\u00fd p\u0159edm\u011bt vypr\u00e1v\u00ed p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh. M\u016f\u017ee to b\u00fdt ko\u0161ile, kter\u00e1 n\u00e1m p\u0159ipom\u00edn\u00e1 spole\u010dnou ve\u010de\u0159i, nebo hodinky, kter\u00e9 d\u011bde\u010dek nosil ka\u017ed\u00fd den. Tyto v\u011bci mohou vyvolat vlnu emoc\u00ed, \u010dasto tak intenzivn\u00ed, \u017ee se n\u00e1m t\u011b\u017eko popad\u00e1 dech. Probl\u00e9m je v tom, \u017ee kdy\u017e jich nahromad\u00edme p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 mnoho, za\u010dneme se zab\u00fdvat minulost\u00ed, co\u017e m\u016f\u017ee br\u00e1nit procesu truchlen\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Proto odborn\u00edci doporu\u010duj\u00ed uchovat si n\u011bkolik skute\u010dn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fdch suven\u00fdr\u016f, kter\u00e9 symbolizuj\u00ed spojen\u00ed, a nechat zbytek b\u00fdt. Nejde o nedostatek \u00facty k zesnul\u00e9mu, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e o krok k rovnov\u00e1ze.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Rozhodnout se, co nechat po sob\u011b a s \u010d\u00edm se rozlou\u010dit, nen\u00ed snadn\u00e9. Je dobr\u00e9 si ponechat n\u011bkolik v\u011bc\u00ed, kter\u00e9 maj\u00ed zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed hodnotu \u2013 nap\u0159\u00edklad dopis, fotografii nebo mal\u00fd \u0161perk. Zbytek lze p\u0159edat d\u00e1l, darovat rodin\u011b nebo n\u011bkomu v nouzi. Takov\u00e9 symbolick\u00e9 gesto pom\u00e1h\u00e1 uchovat vzpom\u00ednku a z\u00e1rove\u0148 osvobozuje od emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1t\u011b\u017ee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
D\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed nebo vyhazov\u00e1n\u00ed v\u011bc\u00ed zesnul\u00e9ho m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt bolestiv\u00e9, proto\u017ee je to jako p\u0159iznat si, \u017ee dan\u00e1 osoba skute\u010dn\u011b ode\u0161la. Je v\u0161ak d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 si uv\u011bdomit, \u017ee nen\u00ed t\u0159eba sp\u011bchat \u2013 ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u00e1 pr\u00e1vo proj\u00edt si touto cestou vlastn\u00edm tempem. Pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 rozhodnut\u00ed p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed rychle, pro jin\u00e9 a\u017e po mnoha m\u011bs\u00edc\u00edch. To je norm\u00e1ln\u00ed a m\u011bli byste si dovolit pr\u00e1vo truchlit po sv\u00e9m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dobr\u00fdm \u0159e\u0161en\u00edm by mohlo b\u00fdt darovat n\u011bkter\u00e9 z v\u011bc\u00ed bl\u00edzk\u00fdm nebo p\u0159\u00e1tel\u016fm. Vzpom\u00ednky tak nevyblednou, jen z\u00edskaj\u00ed novou podobu \u2013 \u017eij\u00ed d\u00e1l mezi lidmi, kte\u0159\u00ed danou osobu tak\u00e9 milovali. Pamatuji si, jak moje teta dala sv\u00e9 vnu\u010dce n\u00e1hrdeln\u00edk od jej\u00ed matky. Bylo to kr\u00e1sn\u00e9 gesto, kter\u00e9 udr\u017eelo vzpom\u00ednku na jej\u00ed matku \u017eivou, ani\u017e by to zahltilo tetin ka\u017edodenn\u00ed \u017eivot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nen\u00ed v\u017edy nutn\u00e9 uchov\u00e1vat fyzick\u00e9 p\u0159edm\u011bty k uct\u011bn\u00ed pam\u00e1tky. M\u016f\u017eete zasadit strom, vytvo\u0159it fotoalbum nebo dokonce zap\u00e1lit sv\u00ed\u010dku za zesnul\u00e9ho. Takov\u00e1 gesta jsou \u010dasto katarzn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e lp\u011bn\u00ed na p\u0159edm\u011btech, kter\u00e9 v\u00e1m ka\u017ed\u00fd den p\u0159ipom\u00ednaj\u00ed va\u0161i ztr\u00e1tu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pustit se v\u011bc\u00ed nen\u00ed zapom\u00edn\u00e1n\u00ed. Je to akt \u00facty k milovan\u00e9 osob\u011b a z\u00e1rove\u0148 p\u00e9\u010de o na\u0161e vlastn\u00ed du\u0161evn\u00ed zdrav\u00ed. T\u00edmto jedn\u00e1n\u00edm otev\u00edr\u00e1me prostor \u2013 doslova i obrazn\u011b \u2013 pro nov\u00e9 z\u00e1\u017eitky a lidi. Prav\u00e9 vzpom\u00ednky koneckonc\u016f nespo\u010d\u00edvaj\u00ed v p\u0159edm\u011btech, ale ve chv\u00edl\u00edch, kter\u00e9 jsme spolu pro\u017eili, v ponau\u010den\u00edch, kter\u00e1 jsme si z nich odnesli, a v l\u00e1sce, kterou st\u00e1le nos\u00edme v srdci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Lp\u011bn\u00ed na v\u011bcech zesnul\u00e9ho je p\u0159irozen\u00fd reflex, ale n\u011bkdy se st\u00e1v\u00e1 p\u0159ek\u00e1\u017ekou, kter\u00e1 br\u00e1n\u00ed uzdraven\u00ed. Stoj\u00ed za to si ud\u011blat \u010das a pak se v\u011bdom\u011b rozhodnout, co opustit a s \u010d\u00edm se rozlou\u010dit. Vzpom\u00ednky z\u016fstanou v na\u0161ich srdc\u00edch, i kdy\u017e v\u011bci zmiz\u00ed z na\u0161eho okol\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Va\u0161e cesta k m\u00edru za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1, kdy\u017e se vzd\u00e1te minulosti, abyste mohli pln\u011b \u017e\u00edt v p\u0159\u00edtomnosti. To nen\u00ed zrada vzpom\u00ednek na va\u0161i milovanou osobu \u2013 je to zp\u016fsob, jak ji kultivovat zdrav\u011bj\u0161\u00edm a leh\u010d\u00edm zp\u016fsobem.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"P\u0158EDM\u011aTY, KTER\u00c9 N\u00c1S UV\u011aZNILY V MINULOSTI Smrt milovan\u00e9 osoby je v\u017edy zni\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed r\u00e1nou. Ka\u017ed\u00fd z n\u00e1s pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 z\u00e1rmutek jinak, ale b\u011b\u017enou zku\u0161enost\u00ed je, \n [...]<\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2470,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2469","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2469","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2469"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2469\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2471,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2469\/revisions\/2471"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2470"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2469"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2469"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2469"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}