{"id":219,"date":"2025-11-10T13:26:30","date_gmt":"2025-11-10T13:26:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/?p=219"},"modified":"2025-11-10T13:26:30","modified_gmt":"2025-11-10T13:26:30","slug":"duvody-proc-deti-prestavaji-navstevovat-sve-rodice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/?p=219","title":{"rendered":"D\u016fvody, pro\u010d d\u011bti p\u0159est\u00e1vaj\u00ed nav\u0161t\u011bvovat sv\u00e9 rodi\u010de"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Pouto mezi rodi\u010di a d\u011btmi by m\u011blo b\u00fdt nerozbitn\u00e9.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

V mnoha dom\u00e1cnostech v\u0161ak toto pouto pomalu sl\u00e1bne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Telefon p\u0159estane zvonit. N\u00e1v\u0161t\u011bvy se st\u00e1vaj\u00ed m\u00e9n\u011b \u010dast\u00fdmi. Vnou\u010data vyr\u016fstaj\u00ed daleko od sebe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A rodi\u010de \u010dasto nech\u00e1pou pro\u010d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pravda, i kdy\u017e je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 ji sly\u0161et, je, \u017ee odstup ne v\u017edy znamen\u00e1 odm\u00edtnut\u00ed. \u010casto je to mechanismus p\u0159e\u017eit\u00ed \u2013 zp\u016fsob, jak\u00fdm se d\u011bti, nyn\u00ed dosp\u011bl\u00e9, citov\u011b ochr\u00e1n\u00ed, kdy\u017e se vztah stane nesnesiteln\u00fdm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Kdy\u017e se l\u00e1ska zm\u011bn\u00ed v neust\u00e1lou kritiku<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
    \"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    Z\u00e1m\u011br je dobr\u00fd: starat se o jejich volby, jejich zdrav\u00ed, jejich \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed. Ale kdy\u017e se ka\u017ed\u00e1 n\u00e1v\u0161t\u011bva zm\u011bn\u00ed v s\u00e9rii koment\u00e1\u0159\u016f \u2013 \u201eM\u011bl bys to ud\u011blat\u201c, \u201eZase jsi p\u0159ibral?\u201c \u2013 koment\u00e1\u0159 se zm\u011bn\u00ed v odsuzov\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    D\u011bti p\u0159est\u00e1vaj\u00ed chodit, ne z neochoty, ale proto, aby si na\u0161ly m\u00edsto, kde se nebudou c\u00edtit souzen\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    1. Hranice nejsou vzpoura<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Kdy\u017e dosp\u011bl\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b \u0159ekne: \u201eNemluv o tom,\u201c nebo \u201ePros\u00edm, nevyjad\u0159uj sv\u016fj n\u00e1zor na to, jak vychov\u00e1v\u00e1me d\u011bti,\u201c neodm\u00edt\u00e1 rodi\u010de \u2013 stanovuje si t\u00edm   emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed hranici<\/strong>  .
      Pokud ale odpov\u011b\u010f zn\u00ed: \u201eJsem tvoje matka, budu si \u0159\u00edkat, co chci,\u201c sly\u0161\u00ed: \u201eMoje pohodl\u00ed je d\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e tv\u00e9 blaho.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Respektov\u00e1n\u00ed vlastn\u00edch omezen\u00ed, i kdy\u017e jim nerozum\u00edte, je \u010dasto prvn\u00edm krokem k usm\u00ed\u0159en\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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      1. Pro\u017e\u00edvat minulost znovu a znovu<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
        \"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

        N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed rodi\u010de opakuj\u00ed stejn\u00e9 h\u00e1dky a lp\u00ed na stejn\u00fdch z\u00e1\u0161t\u00edch. Tyto rozhovory d\u011bti jen vracej\u00ed ke star\u00fdm zran\u011bn\u00edm a ned\u00e1vaj\u00ed jim prostor k uzdraven\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

        Ka\u017ed\u00e9 setk\u00e1n\u00ed se st\u00e1v\u00e1 sp\u00ed\u0161e op\u011btovn\u00fdm \u010dten\u00edm minulosti ne\u017e sd\u00edlen\u00edm p\u0159\u00edtomnosti. A tv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed v tv\u00e1\u0159 tomuto opakov\u00e1n\u00ed se odstup n\u011bkdy st\u00e1v\u00e1 jedin\u00fdm \u00fanikem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          \n
        1. Omluva, kter\u00e1 nikdy nep\u0159i\u0161la<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

          Fr\u00e1ze jako \u201eUd\u011blal jsem, co jsem mohl\u201c nebo \u201eTakhle se to nestalo\u201c se mohou zd\u00e1t ne\u0161kodn\u00e9, ale zav\u00edraj\u00ed dve\u0159e dialogu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          D\u011bti neo\u010dek\u00e1vaj\u00ed dokonalost, jen up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e9 p\u0159izn\u00e1n\u00ed toho, jak se c\u00edtily.
          Jednoduch\u00e9 \u201ePromi\u0148, jestli jsem t\u011b zranil\/a\u201c m\u016f\u017ee sta\u010dit k prolomen\u00ed   let ml\u010den\u00ed<\/strong>  .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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          1. Kdy\u017e se v\u00e1\u0161 partner nec\u00edt\u00ed v\u00edt\u00e1n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

            Chladn\u00fd pohled, nen\u00e1padn\u00e1 pozn\u00e1mka, p\u0159ehnan\u011b neodbytn\u00e1 nostalgie po \u201estar\u00fdch \u010dasech\u201c\u2026 Tato gesta, i kdy\u017e ta mimovoln\u00ed, mohou vytv\u00e1\u0159et odstup.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            D\u011bti se rozhodly chr\u00e1nit sv\u016fj domov. Nevylu\u010duj\u00ed v\u00e1s; jednodu\u0161e se sna\u017e\u00ed udr\u017eet stabilitu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

              \n
            1. N\u00e1prava rodi\u010dovstv\u00ed p\u0159ed va\u0161imi d\u011btmi<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

              \u0158\u00edkat \u201eKdy\u017e jsem t\u011b vychov\u00e1val\/a, ned\u011blal\/a jsem takov\u00e9 v\u011bci\u201c se zd\u00e1 ne\u0161kodn\u00e9, ale podkop\u00e1v\u00e1 to jejich sebev\u011bdom\u00ed.
              Dne\u0161n\u00ed rodi\u010de cht\u011bj\u00ed c\u00edtit podporu, ne souzen\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

              Kdy\u017e prarodi\u010de p\u0159ekro\u010d\u00ed tuto hranici, n\u00e1v\u0161t\u011bva se m\u00edsto okam\u017eiku pot\u011b\u0161en\u00ed zm\u011bn\u00ed v utrpen\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                \n
              1. \u0160t\u011bdrost s podm\u00ednkami<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

                Pom\u00e1hat, d\u00e1vat, podporovat: je to \u00fa\u017easn\u00e9. Ale kdy\u017e jsou tato gesta doprov\u00e1zena p\u0159ipom\u00ednkami \u2013 \u201ePo v\u0161em, co jsem pro tebe ud\u011blal\/a…\u201c \u2013 stanou se neviditeln\u00fdmi \u0159et\u011bzy.
                L\u00e1ska by nem\u011bla b\u00fdt smlouvou. D\u011bti budou v\u017edycky d\u00e1vat p\u0159ednost svobod\u011b p\u0159ed emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed z\u00e1vislost\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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                1. Miluj vzpom\u00ednky, ne lidi, kte\u0159\u00ed \u017eij\u00ed te\u010f.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
                  \"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

                  N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed rodi\u010de st\u00e1le oslovuj\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b, kter\u00e9 vychovali, ne dosp\u011bl\u00e9ho, kter\u00fdm se stali.
                  \u201eMiloval jsi to!\u201c, \u201eKdy\u017e jsi byl mal\u00fd, byl jsi tak vtipn\u00fd…\u201c Tato l\u00e1skypln\u00e1 slova mohou d\u00edt\u011bti tak\u00e9 p\u0159ipomenout, \u017ee u\u017e nen\u00ed vn\u00edm\u00e1no takov\u00e9, jak\u00e9 je nyn\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  Abyste toto pouto obnovili, mus\u00edte znovuobjevit sv\u00e9 dosp\u011bl\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b, jeho \u017eivot, jeho volby a jeho sv\u011bt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  Vzd\u00e1lenost zrozen\u00e1 z nedostate\u010dn\u011b vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00e9 l\u00e1sky<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

                  Ani rodi\u010de, ani d\u011bti si obvykle necht\u011bj\u00ed navz\u00e1jem ubli\u017eovat. Prvn\u00ed c\u00edt\u00ed smutek, druz\u00ed \u017eivotn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eitou pot\u0159ebu nad\u00fdchat se vzduchu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  Cesta ke sm\u00ed\u0159en\u00ed vede v naslouch\u00e1n\u00ed, porozum\u011bn\u00ed a zv\u011bdavosti, nikoli v pocitu viny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  Neptejte se jich, pro\u010d u\u017e nechod\u00ed, ale jak se jim da\u0159\u00ed.
                  Poslouchejte, abyste pochopili, ne abyste odpov\u00eddali.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  A pamatujte: n\u011bkdy opravdov\u00e1 l\u00e1ska nen\u00ed o neust\u00e1l\u00e9 bl\u00edzkosti, ale o schopnosti poskytnout prostor, ani\u017e by se p\u0159eru\u0161ilo pouto.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Pouto mezi rodi\u010di a d\u011btmi by m\u011blo b\u00fdt nerozbitn\u00e9. V mnoha dom\u00e1cnostech v\u0161ak toto pouto pomalu sl\u00e1bne. Telefon p\u0159estane zvonit. N\u00e1v\u0161t\u011bvy se st\u00e1vaj\u00ed \n [...]<\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":220,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-219","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/219","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=219"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/219\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":221,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/219\/revisions\/221"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/220"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=219"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=219"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=219"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}