Man\u017eelstv\u00ed je jedno z nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00edch rozhodnut\u00ed, kter\u00e1 v \u017eivot\u011b d\u011bl\u00e1me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Na\u0161e p\u0159edstavy o vztaz\u00edch a o tom, co v nich hled\u00e1me, se v\u0161ak m\u011bn\u00ed s v\u011bkem, zku\u0161enostmi a n\u00e1sledn\u00fdmi \u017eivotn\u00edmi lekcemi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Co bylo prioritou v prvn\u00edm man\u017eelstv\u00ed, \u010dasto vypad\u00e1 \u00fapln\u011b jinak ve druh\u00e9m, a dokonce i jinak ve t\u0159et\u00edm. Ka\u017ed\u00e1 f\u00e1ze p\u0159edstavuje jin\u00fd p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh, jinou sadu pot\u0159eb a jin\u00fd pohled na to, co je l\u00e1ska.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kdy\u017e se ohl\u00e9dnu zp\u011bt, vid\u00edm, jak odli\u0161n\u00e9 jsou tyto f\u00e1ze. Pro m\u011b bylo m\u00e9 prvn\u00ed man\u017eelstv\u00ed dobou idealismu a v\u00edry, \u017ee l\u00e1ska bude sta\u010dit k p\u0159ekon\u00e1n\u00ed jak\u00fdchkoli t\u011b\u017ekost\u00ed. M\u00e9 druh\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed bylo o pragmatismu a zam\u011b\u0159en\u00ed na stabilitu. M\u00e9 t\u0159et\u00ed man\u017eelstv\u00ed bylo o oce\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed jednoduch\u00fdch, ka\u017edodenn\u00edch okam\u017eik\u016f a vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 spole\u010dnosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prvn\u00ed man\u017eelstv\u00ed \u010dasto za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 velk\u00fdmi emocemi. Je to doba, kdy c\u00edt\u00edme, \u017ee je mo\u017en\u00e9 v\u0161echno. L\u00e1ska je sv\u011b\u017e\u00ed a jsme pln\u00ed nad\u011bje a p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den\u00ed, \u017ee pouh\u00e1 l\u00e1ska jeden druh\u00e9ho p\u0159ekon\u00e1 v\u0161echny p\u0159ek\u00e1\u017eky. B\u011bhem t\u00e9to f\u00e1ze se na sv\u00e9ho partnera \u010dasto d\u00edv\u00e1me p\u0159es r\u016f\u017eov\u00e9 br\u00fdle a v\u011b\u0159\u00edme, \u017ee spole\u010dn\u011b vybudujeme dokonal\u00fd sv\u011bt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pamatuji si, jak jsem se v m\u00e9m prvn\u00edm vztahu \u00fapln\u011b ztratila ve snech o spole\u010dn\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b. V\u011b\u0159ila jsem, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00e1 obt\u00ed\u017e je jen do\u010dasn\u00e1 a na\u0161e l\u00e1ska nezni\u010diteln\u00e1. Byl to p\u0159\u00edstup pln\u00fd nad\u0161en\u00ed, ale i ur\u010dit\u00e9 naivity. Postupem \u010dasu jsem se nau\u010dila, \u017ee krom\u011b l\u00e1sky je nutn\u00e1 i trp\u011blivost, komunika\u010dn\u00ed dovednosti a ka\u017edodenn\u00ed pr\u00e1ce na vztahu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Druh\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed je \u010dasto v\u00fdsledkem ponau\u010den\u00ed z prvn\u00edho. Kdy\u017e vstupujeme do vztahu po p\u0159edchoz\u00edch zku\u0161enostech, na l\u00e1sku se d\u00edv\u00e1me m\u00e9n\u011b prizmatem v\u00e1\u0161n\u011b a v\u00edce prizmatem partnerstv\u00ed. D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 je kompatibilita v ka\u017edodenn\u00edch z\u00e1le\u017eitostech, sd\u00edlen\u00e9 hodnoty a schopnost \u0159e\u0161it probl\u00e9my bez jejich odkl\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Po rozvodu se m\u00e9 priority v druh\u00e9m man\u017eelstv\u00ed \u00fapln\u011b zm\u011bnily. Romantika sice z\u016fstala, ale d\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed se staly spole\u010dn\u00e9 c\u00edle, finan\u010dn\u00ed zabezpe\u010den\u00ed, d\u016fv\u011bra a vz\u00e1jemn\u00e1 podpora. U\u017e jsem v\u011bd\u011bla, \u017ee l\u00e1ska je z\u00e1klad, ale stabilita a schopnost spolupracovat byly nezbytn\u00fdmi prvky, bez kter\u00fdch bylo t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 vybudovat trval\u00fd vztah.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u0159et\u00ed man\u017eelstv\u00ed nab\u00edz\u00ed zcela jinou perspektivu. V t\u00e9to \u017eivotn\u00ed f\u00e1zi se m\u00e9n\u011b jedn\u00e1 o vytv\u00e1\u0159en\u00ed ide\u00e1ln\u00ed vize budoucnosti a v\u00edce o u\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed si p\u0159\u00edtomnosti. V\u00e1\u0161e\u0148 a stabilita ustupuj\u00ed pocitu emocion\u00e1ln\u00edho bezpe\u010d\u00ed, p\u0159ijet\u00ed a ka\u017edodenn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edtomnosti druh\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dnes v\u00edm, \u017ee nejv\u011bt\u0161\u00ed hodnotou je partner, se kter\u00fdm m\u016f\u017eu sd\u00edlet jednoduch\u00e9 chv\u00edle \u2013 rann\u00ed k\u00e1vu, rozhovor na proch\u00e1zce, klidnou chv\u00edli, kdy se c\u00edt\u00edme uvoln\u011bn\u011b. U\u017e nen\u00ed tlak na spln\u011bn\u00ed v\u0161ech o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed toho druh\u00e9ho. M\u00edsto toho je tu pochopen\u00ed, \u017ee \u017eivot je o spole\u010dn\u00e9 cest\u011b, vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 podpo\u0159e, ani\u017e bychom se navz\u00e1jem p\u0159ehnan\u011b kontrolovali.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prvn\u00ed man\u017eelstv\u00ed n\u00e1s u\u010d\u00ed sn\u00edt, druh\u00e9 b\u00fdt realisty a t\u0159et\u00ed v\u00e1\u017eit si ka\u017edodenn\u00edho \u017eivota. Ka\u017ed\u00e1 f\u00e1ze n\u00e1m p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed do \u017eivota jin\u00e9 lekce a ka\u017ed\u00e1 m\u00e1 svou vlastn\u00ed hodnotu. Bez ohledu na to, kde jsme, je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 si uv\u011bdomit, \u017ee l\u00e1ska nen\u00ed statick\u00e1 \u2013 dozr\u00e1v\u00e1 s n\u00e1mi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ujasn\u011bno mi bylo, \u017ee \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9 man\u017eelstv\u00ed \u2013 a\u0165 u\u017e prvn\u00ed, druh\u00e9 nebo t\u0159et\u00ed \u2013 vy\u017eaduje flexibilitu, trp\u011blivost a otev\u0159enost ke zm\u011bn\u00e1m. Bez ohledu na po\u010det prsten\u016f na prst\u011b je skute\u010dn\u00fdm c\u00edlem vytvo\u0159it vztah, ve kter\u00e9m se oba lid\u00e9 c\u00edt\u00ed p\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1ni, bezpe\u010dn\u011b a d\u016fle\u017eit\u00ed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"V\u00ddVOJ O\u010cEK\u00c1V\u00c1N\u00cd V MAN\u017dELSTV\u00cd Man\u017eelstv\u00ed je jedno z nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00edch rozhodnut\u00ed, kter\u00e1 v \u017eivot\u011b d\u011bl\u00e1me. Na\u0161e p\u0159edstavy o vztaz\u00edch a o tom, co v \n [...]<\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1975,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1974","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1974","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1974"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1974\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1976,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1974\/revisions\/1976"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1975"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1974"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1974"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1974"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}