Nev\u011bra. Slovo, kter\u00e9 zra\u0148uje, rozd\u011bluje a znepokojuje. P\u0159esto se st\u00e1le objevuje v mnoha milostn\u00fdch p\u0159\u00edb\u011bz\u00edch, i kdy\u017e se p\u00e1r na prvn\u00ed pohled zd\u00e1 b\u00fdt siln\u00fd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro\u010d n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed mu\u017ei, kte\u0159\u00ed jsou \u017eenat\u00ed u\u017e l\u00e9ta, p\u0159ekra\u010duj\u00ed tuto zak\u00e1zanou hranici?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jde v\u017edy o v\u00e1\u0161e\u0148, nebo se za t\u00edm skr\u00fdvaj\u00ed slo\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed motivy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
O\u010dima \u017eeny, kter\u00e1 byla dlouho d\u016fv\u011brnic\u00ed nev\u011brn\u00fdch mu\u017e\u016f, objevujeme zcela jinou str\u00e1nku t\u00e9to reality, \u010dasto posuzovan\u00e9 ukvapen\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prvn\u00ed, t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 univerz\u00e1ln\u00ed, pozorov\u00e1n\u00ed se t\u00fdk\u00e1 rutiny. Nejde o nedostatek l\u00e1sky k man\u017eelk\u00e1m, ale o postupn\u00e9 opot\u0159eben\u00ed ka\u017edodenn\u00edho \u017eivota. Mezi povinnostmi, prac\u00ed, d\u011btmi a poch\u016fzkami ub\u00fdv\u00e1 prostoru pro spont\u00e1nnost, n\u011bhu a z\u00e1bavu. Intimita se st\u00e1v\u00e1 mechanickou, n\u011bkdy dokonce miz\u00ed. N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed mu\u017ei hledaj\u00ed toto vzru\u0161en\u00ed jinde, ne proto, aby unikli man\u017eelstv\u00ed, ale aby znovuobjevili zapomenutou emoci: pocit \u017eivota, \u017e\u00e1danosti, vyvolenosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Na rozd\u00edl od v\u0161eobecn\u00e9ho p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den\u00ed ne v\u0161echny af\u00e9ry pramen\u00ed pouze z fyzick\u00e9 touhy. Mnoz\u00ed hledaj\u00ed odpo\u010dinek, m\u00edsto bez soud\u016f, kde si mohou pov\u00eddat, d\u00fdchat a existovat mimo sv\u00e9 role otc\u016f, man\u017eel\u016f nebo profesion\u00e1l\u016f. N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed v druh\u00e9 osob\u011b nach\u00e1zej\u00ed nejen t\u011blo, ale i naslouchaj\u00edc\u00ed ucho, lehk\u00fd dotek a formu emocion\u00e1ln\u00edho \u00faniku.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Postupem \u010dasu se n\u011bkter\u00e9 vztahy stanou sp\u00ed\u0161e funk\u010dn\u00edmi ne\u017e emocion\u00e1ln\u00edmi. Mluv\u00edme o organizaci, \u00fakolech k dokon\u010den\u00ed, \u00fa\u010dtech k zaplacen\u00ed. Ale co zp\u016fsob, jak\u00fdm se na sebe navz\u00e1jem d\u00edv\u00e1me, na\u0161e vd\u011b\u010dnost, hloubka na\u0161eho spojen\u00ed? Mnoho mu\u017e\u016f p\u0159izn\u00e1v\u00e1, \u017ee se c\u00edt\u00ed neviditeln\u00ed a ignorovan\u00ed. Nesna\u017e\u00ed se nahradit sv\u00e9 man\u017eelky, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e zaplnit emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed pr\u00e1zdnotu, kter\u00e1 se stala b\u0159emenem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Za zradou se \u010dasto skr\u00fdvaj\u00ed osobn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edb\u011bhy, n\u011bkdy i bolestiv\u00e9. Jsou to mu\u017ei, kte\u0159\u00ed vyr\u016fstali bez cit\u016f, se zkreslen\u00fdm pohledem na l\u00e1sku nebo kte\u0159\u00ed si nesou nezahojen\u00e9 r\u00e1ny. Ne v\u017edy v\u011bd\u00ed, jak vyj\u00e1d\u0159it sv\u00e9 pot\u0159eby nebo \u010delit sv\u00fdm emoc\u00edm. M\u00edsto aby se s nimi vypo\u0159\u00e1dali, ut\u00edkaj\u00ed do jin\u00e9ho vztahu v domn\u011bn\u00ed, \u017ee najdou do\u010dasn\u00fd l\u00e9k na sv\u00e9 ne\u0161t\u011bst\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nejde o to, abychom n\u011bkoho obvi\u0148ovali nebo zbavovali viny. Mnoho \u017een ve sv\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch ob\u011btuje mnoho, \u010dasto na \u00fakor sebe sama. Vztahy jsou v\u0161ak k\u0159ehk\u00e9 struktury, kter\u00e9 vy\u017eaduj\u00ed neust\u00e1lou pozornost obou partner\u016f. Kdy\u017e se komunikace naru\u0161\u00ed, touha sl\u00e1bne a p\u0159estane se naslouchat, pouto sl\u00e1bne. N\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed mu\u017ei nev\u011bd\u00ed, jak to napravit, a tak se ti\u0161e od sebe vzdaluj\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u00edsto toho, abychom p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 rychle soudili a odsuzovali, je mo\u017en\u00e1 na\u010dase si polo\u017eit spr\u00e1vn\u00e9 ot\u00e1zky. Naslouch\u00e1me ve sv\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch st\u00e1le druh\u00fdm? C\u00edt\u00ed se ten druh\u00fd vn\u00edm\u00e1n, sly\u0161en a cht\u011bn\u00fd? V na\u0161ich usp\u011bchan\u00fdch \u017eivotech si v\u011bnujeme \u010das p\u011bstov\u00e1n\u00ed neviditeln\u00e9ho pouta, kter\u00e9 n\u00e1s spojuje?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Proto\u017ee v\u011brnost ve sv\u00e9 podstat\u011b nen\u00ed jen slib. Je to emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed konstrukt, k\u0159ehk\u00e1 nit tkan\u00e1 den za dnem. A pokud chceme, aby vydr\u017eela, mus\u00edme se n\u011bkdy znovu nau\u010dit mluvit, vid\u011bt, milovat jinak.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Nev\u011bra. Slovo, kter\u00e9 zra\u0148uje, rozd\u011bluje a znepokojuje. P\u0159esto se st\u00e1le objevuje v mnoha milostn\u00fdch p\u0159\u00edb\u011bz\u00edch, i kdy\u017e se p\u00e1r na prvn\u00ed pohled zd\u00e1 \n [...]<\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":12486,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12485","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12485","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=12485"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12485\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12487,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12485\/revisions\/12487"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/12486"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=12485"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=12485"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fakt24.biz.ua\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=12485"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}